Finally getting an infertility referral


On Thursday after what seems like such a battle to get there, we were finally seeing an infertility consultant at our local Women’s Hospital in our bid for our much wanted second pregnancy. I am infertile with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) which pretty much hinders any chances of falling pregnant naturally (without medication or IVF).

I was incredibly nervous ahead of the appointment to the point of making myself quite ill. I wish I was one of those people who didn’t eat when they were stressed but unfortunately my weight has risen, my confidence has dropped like a stone and I’ve been so anxious about pretty much everything.

For the last six months, it feels like the pressure has been building and I was really worried the consultant would take one look at me and tell me to go away once I’d lost more weight. Back in September when I last asked for a referral to the gynae my GP wrote to the wrong hospital. The hospital wrote back to me saying they couldn’t help me and even if they could, they wouldn’t because I was so overweight. They really knew how to kick a women when she’s down.

For this appointment, I knew I wanted to know 3 things; 1) would they give me metformin which is the medication that I was on when I conceived Olly 2) what weight would I need to be for the merformin if they wouldn’t prescribe it me and 3) what weight do I need to get down to for further support and medication, such as clomid.

flowers infertility

I was a bag of nerves on the day. Unfortunately this wasn’t helped by the lack of available car parking at the hospital meaning I had to sit and wait on my own whilst my husband found a car parking space. A friendly nurse weighed me and checked my height. Thankfully, as I’ve been on Slimming World forever, my weight wasn’t a surprise so I was ready for them to tell me the news my BMI was still quite high. The consultant called me in and my husband still hadn’t parked the car, nightmare! I asked if we could wait and they swapped our appointment with the couple next on the list. Thankfully as they went in and the doors closed, my husband ran through the doors. It only took him 45 minutes to park the car!

Finally it was our time to go in and the consultant couldn’t have been nicer. She put me at ease and asked me lots of questions. She asked me if I was on medication and asked me about metformin. So imagine her surprise when I told her I wasn’t on it as my own GP wouldn’t prescribe it. She was really annoyed and said he should have prescribed it ages ago. I was so cross! Thankfully, she wrote me a prescription for metformin which I teared up at. Finally, I have the prescription for the drugs that can hopefully help me again!

She asked us more questions, ordered me an ultrasound on my ovaries and uterus as well as blood tests for various days throughout my next period. She also gave me some weight targets to aim for and an appointment in four months for a follow up. She said she would hope to see me next time with some news (i.e being pregnant) but I’m not looking that far ahead to be honest. I can’t build my hopes up for something that might not happen.

I walked out of the appointment feeling like I had won the lottery, I literally cried the whole way home. Finally, I’ve been taken seriously and I’m now in the system with some targets to aim for. My next steps are to lose at least 2.5 stone in the next four months, my husband has an appointment with male fertility testing from Fertility Plus to rule out any issues and I’m to take my medication as well as folic acid. I’m so happy to finally get on the way. I’m so hoping this is our year. Fingers crossed!

I’m going to throw everything I have on making sure I achieve the consultants targets in the next four months. Failure is simply not an option. I need this help and have to do everything in my power to get there. I just have to! The future of my family is in my hands and it’s pretty much now or never!

You Might Also Like


  • Reply Beth @ Twinderelmo 12/02/2017 at 5:21 pm

    Fingers toes and everything else crossed for you Emma. I am so glad you had such a helpful positive consultant and I like her really hope you have some good news soon. But regardless you are on the right track at long long last xxxx

  • Reply Rachel @ Coffee, Cake, Kids 12/02/2017 at 5:23 pm

    I’m so happy for you guys that something is finally happening for you. I have everything crossed for you, and I have no doubt whatsoever that you will get to your target weight. I rarely comment, but I always read your blog and weight loss updates and you’ve done so well, and you will continue to do so. Lots of luck to you all! x

  • Reply Kelly | To Become Mum 12/02/2017 at 5:30 pm

    SO happy that you got something out of your last meeting and keeping everything crossed for you. You have come so far and you can achieve what you want – you’re amazing! X

  • Reply Clare aka Emmy's Mummy 12/02/2017 at 5:31 pm

    Oh darling I am so happy to read this. I know how badly you’ve wanted this and how well you’ve done with the weight loss.

    I’m cross with your doctor too.

    Thank goodness for a lovely consultant. You are an inspiration lovely xxx

  • Reply Clair 12/02/2017 at 5:54 pm

    I’m sure I’m not the only person from our group that would say… we will support you as much as you need and as much as possible to achieve your goal! X

  • Reply Colette 12/02/2017 at 6:03 pm

    I’m so pleased for you Emma. And cross that so much time has been wasted by your GP!
    I KNOW you can lose that 2.5 stone. Especially with clear date in mind and a real goal to concentrate on x x

  • Reply Donna 12/02/2017 at 6:17 pm

    This made me so emotional for you Em. I have had everything crossed for you for what seems like such a long time. I know how you must be feeling and I am so glad things are looking up. You can do this Em, you really can x

  • Reply Farmerswifeandmummy 12/02/2017 at 6:27 pm

    I’m so pleased with your referral but can’t understand why they won’t give you metformin anyway-especially as it can aid weight loss. Big hugs lovely. You can do it xx

  • Reply Kim Carberry 12/02/2017 at 8:21 pm

    That is wonderful news….It sounds like it was such a positive appointment.
    Wishing you the best of luck xxx

  • Reply Newcastle Family Life 12/02/2017 at 9:35 pm

    So glad that you are finally getting somewhere and the consultant was so helpful. I have every faith that you will lose 2.5 stone in the next few months and I have my fingers crossed that this will be your year xx

  • Reply T W 13/02/2017 at 12:54 pm

    I loved reading this article, I’m so pleased for you. I too am on the 1st rung of the ladder in seeking and hopefully receiving fertility treatment, I don’t know what to expect and at the age of 43 I’m not sure how it’s all going to go but like you I’m going to give it my best shot as it will probably be my last chance. Best of luck to you Emma, I hope everything works out well for you. X

  • Reply Susan Mann 13/02/2017 at 1:41 pm

    That is great news you are finally getting somewhere. I have everything crossed you will make your weight target, you are focussed and can do this. xx

  • Reply Plutonium Sox 14/02/2017 at 5:23 pm

    I’m so pleased for you Emma, and keeping everything crossed for you too. I’m so glad you’re getting the help you need and what a shame your GP didn’t prescribe the medication earlier.

  • Reply Tracey Williams 19/02/2017 at 4:31 pm

    Ah Emma I am so pleased you are finally getting the help and medication. Wishing you lots of love for the future and I know you can do it honey xx

  • Reply Confessions of a New Mummy 20/02/2017 at 10:55 am

    I’m so pleased it was such a positive appointment for you Emma, its just a shame its taken the Doctors so long to move things forward for you. On a separate note, its interesting that they’re happy to prescribe Metformin in relation to the PCOS as mine refuse to do so saying there isn’t enough evidence to support it (frustratingly!). Wishing you lots of luck lovely xx

  • I'd love to hear from you

    This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

    %d bloggers like this: