Little Mr is now well down the weaning road and I fear there is absolutely no way back. For the last 4 weeks, I’ve been giving him porridge for breakfast and then Stage 1 puree’s for lunch and dinner. Depending on how hungry he is throughout the day, we might drop lunch following his cues on how he’s feeling and if he got up later than usual or if he’s just having an ‘off my food’ day. Alongside this he’s been having his usual bottles of milk, of which he seems to love first thing in the morning, and taking on board the latest nugget of advice from one of the rubbish health visitors is to ensure he’s having dairy on a daily basis.
I feel absolutely clueless. I specifically made an appointment with a health visitor a month or two back to ask to talk about weaning. I wanted to know what I can give, what I cant give him, what he’s supposed to have and when. I had a chat with a Family Support Worker who did just that, she asked me what I thought and then told me to trust my instinct and that I would know what to do. I don’t! I feel stupid.
I’m giving Little Mr half a jar of ready made porridge in the morning, an hour or two after his bottle. Then a bottle of milk, roughly 4 hours after the last one. Then it’s lunchtime so I’ve been giving him a third to half a pouch of Stage 1 puree which he struggles to finish. Again, 4 hours after the last bottle, he has another bottle of milk, then an hour later it’s dinner time. Again, if he’s hungry I’ll give him some more puree and a fromage frais for afters. I thought, as a naïve first time mum, that you gradually increase the amount of food progressing through the textures until you reach solids and the milk intake reduces. Is this not right?
I’ve been reading all about what other mums are feeding their little ones at the same stage as my son and I can’t help but feel like he’s missing out. I’m scared of feeding him normal foods and to be brutally honest,I’m scared he’s going to choke and I’m not going to be able to save him. I can’t lose my Son, I just can’t. I know it all sounds rather dramatic but this is how I’m feeling.
On Sunday, we had my family round to celebrate my Sisters birthday. As we all sat round the dining table, Little Mr was watching every mouthful we were eating. So I gave him a tiny blob of mashed potato. He loved it! With encouragement from my Mom and my sister, I then gave him a strawberry which again he enjoyed making a right mess playing with it in his fingers.
Today, I gave him a biscotti biscuit (made for babies aged 7 months plus) as these are said to be soft enough to mush up and eat. Well Little Mr decides to bite it in half and then spent the next 5 seconds, which seemed like 5 minutes to gag on this biscuit getting redder and redder in the face. I hated it, I did panic and helped him get some of the biscuit out of his mouth with my finger. I know I was probably supposed to let him find his own way and do it himself but I couldn’t sit there and watch it.
I find mealtimes incredibly stressful and having heard stories that babies of his age should be having more solid foods as it can affect their speech and lead to fussy babies I’m feeling out of my depth. I’m going to move onto Stage 2 purees and at the weekend, make my own blends following some of the recipes from Annabel Karmel’s book and hope that he will enjoy them and with them being a little thicker he will chew instead of just swallowing the puree down.
Have you got any advice? Do I need to sit on my hands and let him get on with it? I’d love to hear from you.