I first left Little Mr at home with his Daddy to attend a concert when he was just 4 weeks old. I didn’t go too far and was only out of the house for a few hours but I found it really hard. Of course, I did, I had just recently given birth to my first baby, my hormones were all over the place and he was my little boy. I’d carried him for 9 long months feeling every kick, every shuffle and every punch to the hip. I hadn’t left him before so was really nervous but knew he would be absolutely fine with his Daddy. I’m really lucky that hubby is a very hands on kind of Daddy. I don’t think there’s anything he hasn’t done for Little Mr so I’m very blessed that we’re able to share the parental responsibilities.
Over the last few months on a handful of occasions, I’ve left Little Mr with our immediate family and although I trust them completely, to begin with I found it really hard. They didn’t know him as well as I did and I was worried they would overlook something and he’d cry or get upset. Of course this is completely irrational as they all love him dearly and tend to his every need. I’m not ashamed to say that I’ve cried on more than one occasion as I’ve driven away from leaving him with family. He’s my baby.
So when I was asked if I would mind leaving Little Mr in a crèche in a foreign country whilst I had ‘adult time’ on our recent break away, I was
a bit worried. I replied to the email honestly, stating that I hadn’t left him with strangers before and that I was worried. I was anxious that Little Mr would get ignored, that he would be left on a play mat lying in a corner with an inappropriately aged toy and sit alone upset and sobbing. I was worried that he wouldn’t get any attention and that they would ignore his routine, attempt to feed him but struggle to get him to eat and he’d leave crèche upset and unsettled which would would ruin our short break.
How wrong was I? Having met the crèche team at the resort the day before I was confident that they would look after him well. The girls were attentive, asked me lots of questions about his routine and what he liked and disliked. They asked me to write down his usual times for feeding and sleeping and promised to stick to the routine I’d given them as best they could. I cried on leaving him but not because I didn’t trust them with him, because it was the first time I’d left him on his own in a room full of strangers. I was fine after a couple of minutes of reassuring myself he would be absolutely fine and trying to occupy myself round the pool with an ice cold drink and an all inclusive ice cream.
When I went to collect after a long hour and forty minutes, Little Mr he was asleep in the arms of one of the crèche staff. They had attempted to put him into a cot for a sleep but he cried so they picked him up and rocked him back to sleep. He was absolutely fine, not upset and unsettled. I left him in crèche another couple of times during the break and he loved it. He found new toys to play with and interacted really well with the children also attending crèche.
Today, I left Little Mr with his Nanny and Grandad (my hubby’s parents) for the day and for the first time in 7 months, I didn’t get upset. He’s been looked after by them before on a number of occasions but each time I’ve found it difficult leaving him. Perhaps I’m feeling a little bit more confident now knowing he will be absolutely fine and will actually really enjoy himself in their company. This is progress and I like it!