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Leaving Little Mr..

I first left Little Mr at home with his Daddy to attend a concert when he was just 4 weeks old. I didn’t go too far and was only out of the house for a few hours but I found it really hard. Of course, I did, I had just recently given birth to my first baby, my hormones were all over the place and he was my little boy. I’d carried him for 9 long months feeling every kick, every shuffle and every punch to the hip. I hadn’t left him before so was really nervous but knew he would be absolutely fine with his Daddy. I’m really lucky that hubby is a very hands on kind of Daddy. I don’t think there’s anything he hasn’t done for Little Mr so I’m very blessed that we’re able to share the parental responsibilities.

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Over the last few months on a handful of occasions, I’ve left Little Mr with our immediate family and although I trust them completely, to begin with I found it really hard. They didn’t know him as well as I did and I was worried they would overlook something and he’d cry or get upset. Of course this is completely irrational as they all love him dearly and tend to his every need. I’m not ashamed to say that I’ve cried on more than one occasion as I’ve driven away from leaving him with family. He’s my baby.

So when I was asked if I would mind leaving Little Mr in a crèche in a foreign country whilst I had ‘adult time’ on our recent break away, I was a bit worried. I replied to the email honestly, stating that I hadn’t left him with strangers before and that I was worried. I was anxious that Little Mr would get ignored, that he would be left on a play mat lying in a corner with an inappropriately aged toy and sit alone upset and sobbing. I was worried that he wouldn’t get any attention and that they would ignore his routine, attempt to feed him but struggle to get him to eat and he’d leave crèche upset and unsettled which would would ruin our short break.

How wrong was I? Having met the crèche team at the resort the day before I was confident that they would look after him well. The girls were attentive, asked me lots of questions about his routine and what he liked and disliked. They asked me to write down his usual times for feeding and sleeping and promised to stick to the routine I’d given them as best they could. I cried on leaving him but not because I didn’t trust them with him, because it was the first time I’d left him on his own in a room full of strangers. I was fine after a couple of minutes of reassuring myself he would be absolutely fine and trying to occupy myself round the pool with an ice cold drink and an all inclusive ice cream.

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When I went to collect after a long hour and forty minutes, Little Mr he was asleep in the arms of one of the crèche staff. They had attempted to put him into a cot for a sleep but he cried so they picked him up and rocked him back to sleep. He was absolutely fine, not upset and unsettled. I left him in crèche another couple of times during the break and he loved it. He found new toys to play with and interacted really well with the children also attending crèche.

Today, I left Little Mr with his Nanny and Grandad (my hubby’s parents) for the day and for the first time in 7 months, I didn’t get upset. He’s been looked after by them before on a number of occasions but each time I’ve found it difficult leaving him. Perhaps I’m feeling a little bit more confident now knowing he will be absolutely fine and will actually really enjoy himself in their company. This is progress and I like it!

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10 Comments

  • Reply Mary @over40andamumtoone

    It must be lovely having family who can help you out like that. Monkey’s godmum had him a few times when he was younger to give me a break. Our children’s centre were brilliant with the take a break creche – but I did cry when I left him, but we both needed the break from each other! Now he’s at Nursery School and he loves being away from me as much as I enjoy the quiet time.

    29/09/2013 at 7:54 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Aw thats good to hear, I’m hoping he will absolutely love being with his Nanny and Grandad’s whilst I’m at work. Feel terrible but don’t have a choice financially and we’re very lucky.

      29/09/2013 at 10:57 pm
  • Reply LauraCYMFT

    Such a lovely post. I’ve had the same feeling and, in fact, my children weren’t left my family until they were well over a year old, maybe a bit older. They had their first sleepover when they were 5 & 3! It’s hard to leave them, as you say, they are your babies.

    29/09/2013 at 7:54 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Thanks Laura, I’m so glad other people have felt like I do x

      29/09/2013 at 10:56 pm
  • Reply Sim @ Sims Life

    You definitely need you time so make the most of it! I am definitely making the most of my parents being here at the moment as I suffer greatly with childcare issues and not having anyone who can look after my daughter – my advice, take the help and savour every free moment you get!

    29/09/2013 at 9:09 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Thanks Sim, I’m hoping it gets easier :)

      29/09/2013 at 10:55 pm
  • Reply anna

    It is so hard leaving them especially at first, but its great it went so well. As long as they are happy then it does all of you good to have a break and a change from time to time

    29/09/2013 at 11:29 pm
  • Reply Jaime Oliver

    awww honey we had the exact situation on holiday this year and felt physically sick with anxiousness!!

    I am so so glad he had such a lovely experience and that you did too!

    thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments xx

    30/09/2013 at 10:58 pm
  • Reply Beth

    I’m glad you feel more comfortable! I’m still at the ‘overprotective’ stage – well, everybody who asks for him call it that when I say “absolutely not”, which winds me up. No, I just don’t trust you with him!

    Beth x

    06/10/2013 at 9:48 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Thank you, it’s so hard letting them go even for a few hours but he enjoys it and I’d hate to stand in the way of him having some fun x

      It gets easier but I agree the overprotective phase is still there just in case x

      06/10/2013 at 11:59 pm

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