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My post baby body

Last week when the Duchess of Cambridge bravely stepped out onto the steps of the Lindo Wing tenderly holding her newborn Son in her arms, I gasped. Not only did her new baby boy look adorable, but Kate looked absolutely radiant! Just 24 hours previously Kate had given birth to her baby boy George and now she was facing the worlds press and multi-millions of TV viewers as a new Mum, complete with baby bump in appearance. She had gorgeously blow-dried hair, her make up looked perfect, she was wearing a gorgeous polka dot dress and heels, she looked amazing. Thinking back to when I left hospital, I was a wreck. I had frizzy hair, hadn’t slept in at least 72 hours and was in a lot of pain. I was wearing a pair of loose tracksuit bottoms and a jumper. I was only going home not on a date nor did I have no media camping out for my exit so no need to dress up. A little old lady told me I was weary on the way out of the hospital and if looks could kill, I’d be in locked up by now.

I was so shocked when on Twitter I saw tweets suggesting she ‘still had a bun in the oven’ or ‘was she expecting twins’ and it really annoyed me. A lot of people expect a pregnant lady’s body to just ping back into shape as soon as a baby is born. I’ve heard it can take over four weeks for the uterus to shrink and sit back in the pelvis and that’s just for normal births. If you’ve had a c-section it can take a lot longer due to swelling and inflammation. I won’t even mention the overhang! Unfortunately, it wasn’t just narrow minded blokes that were tweeting this drivel, it was women too! Seriously? All I can imagine is that they’ve obviously never had a baby before and if they ever do, I hope they get really really fat!

My post baby body is a few thousand miles away from the body I had before I got pregnant. I’ve never had a body that I’ve been really proud of. Unfortunately when you’re overweight your body sags in all the wrong places and your curves are more curvier than a circle! Before Little Mr was conceived, I had lost just under 5 stone. I was mega happy with myself for losing a lot of weight and in my own opinion, I looked better for it. I don’t think I’ve ever been a size under a UK16, possibly pre-teens but that’s a long time ago now. As my tummy grew to accommodate my little bundle of happiness, so did my bum, my thighs and my upper body. I can’t blame my baby for that! I’m proud of my body for growing such a gorgeously healthy baby, I made him. I’m proud of my stretch marks and my lifesaving emergency scar. I’m one proud mummy but I’m not proud of my bingo wings, my double chin or my spaniel boobs attributed to eating too many biscuits and chocolate bars on maternity leave and not having enough energy to exercise!

My post baby body is one that I need to look after more. I don’t regularly shave my legs or even moisturise them enough. Luckily as a blonde I can get away with it for longer but I need to take more care. We’re hoping for a brother or sister for Little Mr in the next few years and I know that in order to do that I’m going to need to reduce my BMI to help my chances of conceiving. With my polycystic ovaries, being overweight doesn’t help. I need to lose weight and I know I need to. I can see it. I don’t want to return to work in clothes I’ve had to buy in bigger sizes. I want to be able to fit my rather round bum into a pair of jeans and feel comfortable. I want to be able to fit in a pair of jeans without my muffin top proudly sitting on top. I want to wear nice clothes that are tailored and look nice and not just clothes that skim the fat bits!

I’m proud of my baby body I wish it just wasn’t so fat!

mrsshilts

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20 Comments

  • Reply Lauren (@laurenbigeejit)

    Thank you for being so honest. Are you going to start WW again? x

    30/07/2013 at 10:32 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Yes! My head’s not been in it, I’ve not been eating sensibly (if at all!) and my hormones have a lot to answer for. Got a wedding, our anniversary and our holiday then I’m on it! Operation hot momma to commence shortly ;) x

      30/07/2013 at 10:44 pm
  • Reply victoria

    She looked amazing didn’t she! I came home from the hospital in pjs. I attempted to get dressed in hospital and just leaked everywhere..total waste of effort! I’m a stone and a half nearly heavier than I was pre pregnancy, things aren’t as toned, flat, or small but I have a mothers body now :) who cares!

    30/07/2013 at 10:54 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      I totally should of wore pj’s but they would have dug into my scar! Next time ;) x

      30/07/2013 at 10:57 pm
  • Reply Lucy

    What a beautifully honest post! I totally agree with you about Kate, she looked amazing, and I was so frustrated with all the “haters”, like you said, they clearly never had kids themselves! As for your post pregnancy body, it’s been great for me to read such an honest account. Like you, I’d managed to lose 3 stones prior to conceiving & will have put most of that back on by the time my little mr arrives. I feel realistic about losing my baby weight, but also fired up, I feel determined to be back in control of my body & weight again. And I hope to achieve a steady loss over time like before. I know my body will never be the same again, but like you I’m proud of what it’s achieved. And we both know if we put our minds to it we can achieve weight loss & both become more healthy ready for our next children. :-) xxxx

    30/07/2013 at 11:12 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Thanks Lucy, I am determined to lose the weight! I have a wardrobe full of clothes to get back into xx

      30/07/2013 at 11:31 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    I staggered into the lift to bring our first baby home (3 days after having 23 hours of induced labour and a c-sec) with my PJs and dressing gown on. I was met by a true yummy mummy with her gorgeous baby and hubby – full face of makeup, skinny jeans and she looked fab.

    Was embarrassed at the time but she probably breezed through labour in a few hours (ok so I’m just jealous)!!

    :)

    30/07/2013 at 11:26 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Ok, I’d have been so jealous too! I feel your pain on an induced labour, sounds pretty much like mine! x

      30/07/2013 at 11:33 pm
  • Reply Bex @ The Mummy Adventure

    My body has not bounced back at all after having Archie but I really don’t have the time and energy to do anything about it I have muffin tops and a very saggy tummy and so many stretch marks but I carried two big babies in there.

    Brilliantly honest post and I hope Kate loses the post baby bulge in a healthy way too so that people don’t think it is normal to give birth and be sraight back in your pre-pregnancy jeans

    30/07/2013 at 11:26 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Thanks Bex, I naively hoped breastfeeding would allow me to lose the baby weight.. how wrong I was! xx

      30/07/2013 at 11:35 pm
  • Reply Emma

    Great, honest post! I walked out of hospital after having my son like John Wayne lol not very lady like but I was in so much pain. I’m struggling to find the motivation to stick with my post baby diet after my second baby, I really need to get on it though.

    Emma xx

    30/07/2013 at 11:48 pm
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Good luck with the diet hun, will shortly be joining you x

      30/07/2013 at 11:53 pm
  • Reply Karen

    Love how honest you are in this post….I was so naive before having JD and just thought that once the baby was out the bump would be flat again, I was suprised how big it still was after having her. 8 months on I’ve hardly lost any of my pregnancy weight and can’t fit into any of my pre pregnancy trousers – except the elasticated ones! I’m trying to be good now and watch what I eat but it’s soooo difficult (and I love food! :s). I thought Kate looked beautiful leaving the hospital, I’m sure it took a brave face to go out and face the media after just giving birth and being tired! I remember when I left hospital I was not that glamorous! When I was going in I wore comfy trackies and a fleece, which at the time hubby commented that it didn’t really go together but I didn’t care ‘cos I was in pain!…Hope the weight loss goes well. Least we all have each other to rally us on and keep us going xx

    31/07/2013 at 9:14 am
    • Reply mrsshilts

      Thanks Karen. Love that your husband commented on what you were wearing, wonder if he got a mouthful of abuse? ;) xx

      31/07/2013 at 9:25 am
  • Reply Where Roots And Wings Entwine

    Love how honest you are in your post. I still look pregnant now 2 years on lol. Like you I have PCOS and as we are ttc I am trying to loose weight to lower my BMI in the hope that it will help but so far it is a battle I am now winning.

    31/07/2013 at 10:18 pm
  • Reply Clare R

    I haven’t been in clothes smaller than a 16 since high school either. I have been stuck at my heaviest now since my eldest son was born, 4.5 years ago.

    I agree, Kate did look amazing – a little too much perhaps. Some said she didn’t even give birth, and it certainly looked it. I don’t think I looked that great after giving birth, and I had it pretty easy on all four, especially Baby B (a total of 10 minutes in hospital!) and people kept questioning why I was up and about the following day, but I felt good enough.

    However, to have her makeup and hair done before stepping out says a lot to me. Instead of being seen as “one of us” – she’s shown herself as a celebrity. She’s added the pressure on to new mums everywhere that yes, you can look THIS good hours after giving birth. Which I think is wrong!

    Women shouldn’t be made to feel bad about themselves, they’ve just done something amazing! They’ve created and birthed another human! Let them be!

    04/08/2013 at 11:05 pm
  • Reply Emily (@amummytoo)

    Great to read such honesty :) My second baby has changed my body massively and it was all a bit of a shock. I’d like to be fitter, but I’m not going to ever feel guilty or shamed that my body bears the evidence that I created a person – twice! x

    04/08/2013 at 11:43 pm
  • Reply Jen Palmer

    I am in a similar position in that I have never had a slim body but two pregnancies have definitely altered it hugely. I need to lose a lot of weight too but can’t get motivated! Maybe a weight loss linky would be helpful? Would definitely give me motivation to do well if I had to publish my weight loss weekly :)

    05/08/2013 at 6:57 pm
  • Reply Alice @ Mums Make Lists

    Thanks so much for sharing this Emma – really appreciate your honesty. I never had to worry about weight pre-pregnancy but over 3 years later I have still not shifted it and I’m just getting bigger. We have so much diabetes in our family and as a 40+ mum I know I need to do something now.

    I went for my first run today in the park accompanied by 3 year old on scooter – oh my goodness we must have looked a sight ;-) But I think it’s really important for DD to see me exercising and I am just taking the approach that a little every day is better than nothing.

    I’m featuring this post at this week’s Baby Shower – Alice

    08/08/2013 at 10:05 pm
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