*A collaborative post
Mum’s are amazing, aren’t they? Running around all hours of the day to get work done, children where they need to be, the house in order and at some point, they even manage to brush their own teeth and put clothes on. It’s amazing. The thing is, many, many mums out there put themselves to the last of the pile at all times. Of course, you’re nodding at this agreeing because we all know that the kids come first above everything else. Except that sometimes, they don’t. Sometimes, you have to put yourself in the shower first in the day – even if that means waking up at some ungodly hour. Sometimes, you have to take five minutes to just breathe and remind yourself that these busy, long days will not last forever – even if sometimes they feel like they will.
When you’re putting everyone and everything else in front of you, you’re putting your health at the bottom of the pile, which is just not okay. How can you – or any other mum – expect to be a good mother to your children if you are burning out? The best mothers are those who can see when too much stress is affecting them. The best mothers know that chucking the children at their partner for half an hour a day to just read a book with a hot drink is going to be amazing for their mental health and wellbeing. Children are a wonderful blessing, but mum, here’s a secret: you were a person first. I know, she had great hair, the ability to sleep in on the weekends and she could apply makeup REALLY WELL. She’s still in there, deep, deep down beneath the stained t-shirt, the old bra and the suitcases under your eyes. Knowing how to put yourself first sometimes can be hard, so here are some of the ways you can do it:
- Go to bed early and let your partner put the children to bed. Even if you do this once a week, you need to take a night a week to get a full sleep, one that doesn’t involve twenty runs to the baby. Read more at Mattress Guides to figure out which bed to buy for that amazing sleep that you deserve. It’s not easy to do, but you need one night per week at the minimum where you’re getting an uninterrupted sleep.
- Join a yoga or pilates class. One hour per week is not going to interrupt your mothering skills – it’ll enhance them. You’ll be fitter, healthier and able to focus.
- Prep your lunches. Every Sunday night you should decide on a lunch that will keep in the fridge and prepare it. This way, no matter how busy you get, you have a nutritious lunch waiting for you to grab.
- Go for a walk. You don’t need company, just pop your headphones in and stretch your legs. Cabin fever is very real when you’re at home with children, don’t be sucked in by it.
Relaxing as a mother may feel like a fantasy but you need to do it. For you and for your children.