Letting go of the past


I had a bit of an epiphany over Christmas. It was one of those bolt out of the blue moments that left me wondering why I hadn’t really realised it before; my house is cluttered and it’s cluttering my ability to look ahead to the future.


I’ve never been a minimalist. I enjoy having my home comforts around me. I love having lots of photographs in frames all over the walls, I love candles on the mantel piece, blankets on the sofas and cushions galore on the daybed. All the little things that make a house a home and some. But it’s like a thick fog I can’t see through. And it’s suffocating.

We don’t have a huge amount of storage in our two bedroomed terrace home, we have the usual under the stairs dumping ground and a million and one boxes ‘just in case’ up the loft. We’ve even got ‘stuff’ in storage; camping gear, car seats and pushchairs from what I can recall from memory but to write down an inventory of the things in the lock up would leave my mind at a blank.

Why am I holding on to it all?

My memory is rubbish. I’ll admit it. If I don’t write things down I have a tendancy to forget things; dates when my husband is going to be late home from work, dentist appointments or phone numbers. I just don’t have the ability to retain the information. Is this why I keep everything? So that I can remember it all.

The task at hand is overwhelming. We have so much stuff. We really need to sort it out if my mind is going to be free of the burden of stuff. So I can look to the future without obstacle.

As with every obstacle I face, I have to write down the problem. I have to write a list and a step by step guide on how I’m going to unpick it. I’ve made plans to tackle each room individually and apply the rule of if I’ve not used it within 6 months then it needs to go. It needs to be recycled, or sold, or thrown away if it’s no good or no use to anyone else. I need to be ruthless. I need to sort through the stuff and get it out of the house. Taking some of the fog with it.

The weekends ahead are full of plans to tackle these rooms and I’ve roped in my family to help too. We’ve already finished the kitchen and it feels so good to have made a good start. I just need to carry on and get it done. Of course, you can’t really sort out the house with a child in tow as we all know the phrases that will pop out of their mouths “that’s my favourite” or “I was looking for that!” when they see something that they had forgotten about and haven’t played with for months on end.

The mission is on and I’m hoping it’ll clear the house and the fog. One thing at a time.

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  • Reply Sarah | Boo Roo and Tigger Too 07/02/2017 at 6:26 pm

    I know exactly how you feel. It seems no matter where I look there is bits and bobs everywhere. I’m sick of looking at it and I’ve slowly been clearing out

  • Reply claire toplis 07/02/2017 at 7:05 pm

    This is a post I love xx I have been tidying and I have an eBay pike now and a charity shop pile

  • Reply Plutonium Sox 07/02/2017 at 8:51 pm

    Oh gosh I totally get this. I struggle to find the time to throw things away but I feel so much better when I do!

  • Reply Tracey Williams 07/02/2017 at 9:32 pm

    I am quite good at decluttering, but I know exactly what you mean about the fog around you. We are focusing on one of our lofts (yes we have 2…. even more clutter) and each Saturday we have to get rid of at least 5 things from there. Last week we took SO much to the tip and 2 bags to the charity shop. It felt so good to do this. In the week I am focusing on the kitchen cupboards. You will do this Emma, and the fog will lift xx

  • Reply Julie 08/02/2017 at 8:53 am

    I find it very had to throw stuff away,I need to declutter 3 rooms get rid of the memories and stuff I have for gotten I had.Make me sick thinking about it. Think I need help x

  • Reply @adadcalledspen 09/02/2017 at 5:55 pm

    I had a clear out a few years back. I saw it as a way of feeling better, finding freedom from bad memories that were hanging around my neck. My GOSH it felt good.

    Good luck!

  • Reply Chiswick Mum 10/02/2017 at 1:14 pm

    Good luck – look forward to hearing more about it on your blog. I’m in the same place, and had a good go at it in January, but I’ve lapsed. You’re right. There’s just So. Much. Stuff. You sound like you’re really determined so I’m sure you’ll manage it!

    • Reply Emma 10/02/2017 at 9:59 pm

      Thank you, I think I need all the luck! One room at a time or it’ll just get so overwhelming x

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