Mummy conversations about intimate health // AD


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Growing up is tough. At school there may be issues with friends, difference of opinions and then interest in boys develops, it all gets a little complicated. Throw puberty and hormones into the mix and life as a teenager can be pretty gruelling. So when puberty hit me, I was completely overwhelmed but thankfully my Mom was a huge support to me.


I’ve always had a really open relationship with my Mom (it was a bit rocky during my late teenage years as I didn’t want to open up to her, but her arms were always open and her shoulders ready for me to cry on!) My Mom has always been quite honest with me and my Sister about what female issues we would face, as well as all the questions we had entering puberty and although it may have been a little embarrassing at the time, looking back she really did help us on our way to understanding what was going on with our bodies. We could always ask her questions and she’d find a way to tell us in a way that we understood.

Intimate health has always been a topic of conversation that we’ve discussed openly. As a young child, I suffered with regular bladder infections and so being able to speak to my Mom about it was reassuring and comforting. I knew I could tell her about my symptoms and she’d support me in getting well again. It’s so important to normalise these conversations. They should never be embarrassing or difficult to have, it’s just part of normal everyday life. With the absence of formal intimate health education, these conversations are more important than ever.

When I fell pregnant with Olly, I suffered with thrush and found it completely alien to me.  I had always known what was normal for me but when the added hormones kicked it, it really knocked me for six and unfortunately I ended up getting thrush. I was able to talk to my Mom about it, found out it was actually really common and not to worry about it. Did you know that thrush is actually very common? 3 our of 4 women suffer from it at least once during their lives but without having these conversations, not many people know this.  I popped to my local chemist and was able to self-treat it easily and confidently.

Although I’m a Mum to a three year old boy, I’m not embarrassed to talk to him  about intimate health (obviously not in detail) but we have an open door policy on the bathroom (doesn’t everybody with young children?) and he always asks questions about my sanitary products and what they’re for. If we were ever to have a little girl, I’m pretty sure my approach to parenting would be exactly the same as it has been with Olly following in my Mom’s footsteps with me and my Sister. Lets empower our children with the knowledge about intimate health (when we as Parents think they’re ready for it) to enable them to grow confidently and educated. Lets have these conversations and make it part of every day life.


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  • Reply Tracy Nixon 13/12/2016 at 5:01 am

    I’d say from the age of 9!

  • Reply Rachel @ Coffee, Cake, Kids 13/12/2016 at 6:44 am

    As soon as the start asking questions. My little ones (boys all under 6) quite regularly talk to me and their dad about their bits & pieces, if they’re sore or they think something is wrong.It will hopefully mean that they can talk to us about anything as they get older, just as my brothers and I could with my parents.

  • Reply Rebecca C 13/12/2016 at 9:52 am

    I’ve always been open with my daughters from when they were very young. But more about intimate health from the point at which they had their school talk in year 6–so age 10.

  • Reply Nina C 13/12/2016 at 9:58 am

    I think as soon as they can understand things you should be open and talk to them using age appropriate terms. I don’t think there is any specific age, it depends on the child and the subject.

  • Reply Jennifer Haden 13/12/2016 at 10:19 am

    I think it really depends on the child, but maybe around the age of 12-13 seems about right x

  • Reply Tracey Peach 13/12/2016 at 10:29 am

    Around 10 because it will be just before their body’s start to change so they will know what’s going to happen

  • Reply Zoe C 13/12/2016 at 10:37 am

    Around age 10, depends on the child really, definitely beneficial as they need to be aware of own hygiene etc

  • Reply Alice Dixon 13/12/2016 at 10:38 am

    I think it depends on the child. I have an almost 4 year old son who is very inquisitive. I always answer his questions openly and honestly and as accurately as I can to be suitable for his age. I think it’s beneficial to start young, to always know this is part of life

  • Reply Sarah Homer 13/12/2016 at 10:43 am

    I started talking to my daughter about this around 9 as she was asking questions and i felt she was the right age. It is beneficial as they need to grow up being confident about their bodies and love their bodies

  • Reply Tracey Ryder 13/12/2016 at 10:46 am

    think about 10-11 as there body starts to change

  • Reply Heather Haigh 13/12/2016 at 11:12 am

    I don’t think there’s a specific age, I think it’s when the kids are ready and it’s just part of the ‘changing bodies’ coversations we have with our kids.

  • Reply Kat 13/12/2016 at 11:27 am

    My daughter is six and isn’t really interested but we do talk about keeping ourselves clean and we’ve briefly talked about periods. Which is tough as I don’t have one each month at the moment because of the implant. I think I will always try to answer her questions as honestly as possible and base on her maturity.

  • Reply clair downham 13/12/2016 at 11:33 am

    about 9 before puberty

  • Reply laura stewart 13/12/2016 at 12:01 pm

    i think around the age of 11

  • Reply Helen Moulden 13/12/2016 at 12:02 pm

    Around the age of 9/10 years old

  • Reply Kim Neville 13/12/2016 at 12:07 pm

    Around age 9. Some children start puberty early and kids talk at school. Make them feel comfortable talking about personal things with you

  • Reply gabby evans 13/12/2016 at 12:08 pm

    around 9

  • Reply iain maciver 13/12/2016 at 12:08 pm

    MAYBE 10 -11 YEARS

  • Reply Sarah Mackay 13/12/2016 at 12:09 pm

    I would say about 9 years of age

  • Reply Jamielee Wells 13/12/2016 at 12:20 pm

    I think nowadays its getting earlier and earlier – id say 12 years old is a good age and for them to be able to understand

  • Reply Ann Robinson 13/12/2016 at 12:22 pm

    I think about 11 is a good time, however if they have any questions before that i would answer them with an age appropriate response.

  • Reply paul 13/12/2016 at 12:28 pm

    around 10 yeard old

  • Reply Emma Gibson 13/12/2016 at 12:31 pm

    About 8 to start them young.

  • Reply Kamara 13/12/2016 at 12:47 pm

    Around 10 or 11 when they start to have questions. Better to answer and teach them early.

  • Reply Sue McCarthy 13/12/2016 at 12:51 pm

    I don’t have any kids but about 10 I suppose

  • Reply S Edwards 13/12/2016 at 12:56 pm

    8-9 as its always good to inform them as soon as possible

  • Reply sam macaree 13/12/2016 at 1:05 pm

    when they start to ask and it shows they are ready to learn

  • Reply Rea Louise Smith 13/12/2016 at 1:05 pm

    Personally I think every child is different and talking about intimate health to your children is obviously needed, but there shouldn’t be one specific age, it’s all down to the child and when you as a parent think is best. Perhaps during puberty, when they get their first partner, during pregnancy, or a lot younger. There’s always opportunities to do so and should be done when you feel the time is needed.

  • Reply Jo Young 13/12/2016 at 1:17 pm

    I think it depends on each child as they’re all different but I’d say about 7 years old. It’s important so they can stay healthy.

  • Reply karen hill 13/12/2016 at 1:35 pm

    I think at any age you are in a serious relationship you need to discuss it, me and my husband discussed after we had been together for a year, since i was told i was unable to have kids i knew it would have to be talked about, he was fine with that, then things completely changed when i did fall pregnant, luckily he was over the moon with that too. We have been together 10 years now, we have a gorgeous 1 year old and who would have thought it lol x

  • Reply Ann-Marie Gould 13/12/2016 at 1:53 pm

    i think around age 10 is the right age

  • Reply amy bondoc 13/12/2016 at 2:08 pm

    i think about 10/11 years old but depends really on the child and when puberty starts

  • Reply caroline walliss 13/12/2016 at 2:14 pm

    I’d say between 11 and 12 but depends on maturity – i think it’s very beneficial because there is things they should know before experimenting, thanks.x

  • Reply Kay Sherman 13/12/2016 at 2:24 pm

    My daughter is 11 we talk about this a lot

  • Reply Mrs Sam Goodwin 13/12/2016 at 2:25 pm

    10 or 11 I think, alongside when the school do.

  • Reply Fiona K 13/12/2016 at 2:57 pm

    I think about 11 when the child is starting to mature and develop physically

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  • Reply ElegantlyHafsah 13/12/2016 at 3:59 pm

    I think children are a lot more open now, and start to learn things at school much, much earlier than we did, and so inevitably they usually come home and ask questions, and I think that’s a good time to have a sit down.

  • Reply lucy higgins 13/12/2016 at 4:11 pm

    i think around the age of 9 and to be open and honest about it

  • Reply Justine Hughes 13/12/2016 at 5:27 pm

    About age 10 and so that they understand what’s going on and know they can talk to you about it in the future.

  • Reply MANDY DOHERTY 13/12/2016 at 6:20 pm

    When children start becoming curious and asking questions as I feel that they are ready to stare discussing intimate health

  • Reply sarah birkett 13/12/2016 at 7:24 pm

    It varies on the child, and exactly what you are discussing, but it should probably start at the end of KS2 and continue from there

  • Reply Laura Banks 13/12/2016 at 7:40 pm

    probably about age 11

  • Reply Natasha Mairs 13/12/2016 at 7:47 pm

    This is a tough question, but I would say I would start talking to my daughter around 10.

  • Reply Jo Hutchinson 13/12/2016 at 8:07 pm

    Around nine or when the child is ready, and make the chat normal as possible

  • Reply Susan Smith 13/12/2016 at 8:17 pm

    I think when you think they are old enough to understand, some kids grow up faster than others, so i think its personal choice, when you think they are old enough

  • Reply Hilda Wright 13/12/2016 at 8:24 pm

    I just talked to my son about stuff whenever it felt right, by treating it as just a normal part of life it is easy! He can talk to me about anything and does! My bathroom cabinet is crammed with Canisten right now!

  • Reply Emma Rawlinson 13/12/2016 at 8:29 pm

    I would say around 10 years old. I think it’s important for them to know before they reach puberty to be most beneficial

  • Reply Toni Pearson 13/12/2016 at 8:30 pm

    It’s never too early to talk about…just talk at their level…answer any questions with as much info as they need…often just a few words is enough.

  • Reply Emily OMara 13/12/2016 at 8:32 pm

    i would say from 14 onwards, its important for them to speak out as it could prevent potential issues in their future

  • Reply Jemma Taylor 13/12/2016 at 8:33 pm

    I think just before they go into secondary school as this is when they start to change. It would help them to be a bit more relaxed about things.

  • Reply Danielle Rawlings 13/12/2016 at 8:48 pm

    As soon as they hit puberty, they will start to learn about their bodies then

  • Reply barbara daniels 13/12/2016 at 8:58 pm

    about 12 or 13 would be the ideal age

  • Reply carole n 13/12/2016 at 9:04 pm

    when they are mature enough to understand

  • Reply Alana Walker 13/12/2016 at 9:07 pm

    Probably at about 10 or 11 just before they go to secondary school or reach puberty,

  • Reply Tee simpson 13/12/2016 at 9:18 pm

    I think as soon as they show understand. Maybe aged 2 because tge earlier the better. Its so important to gain trust and make sure they know whats ok and not

  • Reply Angela Sandhu 13/12/2016 at 9:36 pm

    9 or 10

  • Reply Rachael G 13/12/2016 at 9:42 pm

    I think the earlier the better so that it becomes normal. As long as conversation is age appropriate, I think it is good for them to know about at an early age.

  • Reply sue smith 13/12/2016 at 9:42 pm

    Loved this and like your lovely mum me and my girls have the same openness.
    I am glad they were able to talk to me x

  • Reply Hannah Igoe 13/12/2016 at 9:42 pm

    I think its really important to build it in from when they are small, that way them and you don’t feel awkward and they never feel like they can’t ask

  • Reply Sam McKean 13/12/2016 at 9:43 pm

    About 10/11 years of age before they start to feel self conscious and reluctant to chat openly

  • Reply Jenna Parrington 13/12/2016 at 9:50 pm

    I think it depends on the child and their level of maturity. I’d say between 8-12?

  • Reply Sarah prescott 13/12/2016 at 9:53 pm

    I think around age 11 just before they go to secondary school

  • Reply Stephanie Coals 13/12/2016 at 9:54 pm

    I think just before they go to secondary school is an appropriate time so at about 11 years old

  • Reply Anthony Harrington 13/12/2016 at 10:07 pm

    I think it depends of the maturity of the child, i think around 9 -10 if the child is ready.

  • Reply Tammy Westrup 13/12/2016 at 10:46 pm

    Probably from about the age of 9 but if they ask questions sooner answer then in a way appropriate for their age

  • Reply Laura Jeffs 13/12/2016 at 10:56 pm

    I don’t think there’s a specific age, all kids are different..if they’re mature enough, probably around 9/10 years old is ideal

  • Reply Solange 13/12/2016 at 11:19 pm

    Around 10 or 11

  • Reply Sinead ORourke 13/12/2016 at 11:26 pm

    13 as they are now teenagers

  • Reply Emma Salter 14/12/2016 at 12:31 am

    It depends on how mature they are. I think as a mother you know when the time is right.

  • Reply Becky Duffy 14/12/2016 at 12:40 am

    About age 9-10 or when they start asking questions!

  • Reply Stuart Allen 14/12/2016 at 2:24 am

    as soon as the teens start!

  • Reply Jay 14/12/2016 at 4:19 am

    From birth onwards, as soon as they know how to talk…basics like hygiene and anatomy can be taught from infancy, as they get older you can build on that knowledge.

  • Reply Lynn Heath 14/12/2016 at 6:14 am

    I think that it important to keep the lines of communication open with your kids and the way to do that is to be open and honest – I’ve explained to my 8 year old about periods and that one day she will have them too, and about making sure she is not ashamed so that she knows she can come to me about anything

  • Reply Jess Mary 14/12/2016 at 1:17 pm

    I think 8-9 would be the perfect age to start talking about these things

  • Reply Jennifer Bruce 14/12/2016 at 1:24 pm

    For me personally, I think the summer holidays before going into year 5, but, understandably p, different for every parent

  • Reply Abigail Cullen 14/12/2016 at 2:29 pm

    I would say from the age of 8, as they grow up so quickly now.

  • Reply gemma brown 14/12/2016 at 4:42 pm

    My eldest has been asking questions since he was about 8 and I’ll answer them as best I can.

  • Reply Kara W 14/12/2016 at 6:39 pm

    I’d say from about 11/12 when they are starting secondary school. Any younger and it might just go right over their heads.

  • Reply Kim Styles 14/12/2016 at 7:51 pm

    Probably about 10 is right, definately pre puberty

  • Reply Janice 14/12/2016 at 8:02 pm

    I would try and gently bring it up from a young age

  • Reply Jayne Townson 14/12/2016 at 8:56 pm

    I think as soon as they start asking questions and certainly before they start secondary school, because if it’s something you’ve always spoke about, it makes not such a big deal.

  • Reply Ellen Sheppard 14/12/2016 at 8:58 pm

    I think it depends on the maturity of the child but I would say around 10-11. I think it’s important to instil good hygiene at an early age.

  • Reply Rebecca Nisbet 14/12/2016 at 10:55 pm

    it depends on the subject i think.

  • Reply Emily Knight 15/12/2016 at 7:29 am

    Whenever they start to ask about it (tailoring answers for their age) so they’re not too embarrassed to ask questions in the future

  • Reply Sally Collingwood 15/12/2016 at 8:35 am

    About 11, before scondary school

  • Reply Kelly Hemmings 15/12/2016 at 8:52 am

    I’d say around the age of 12, but really depends on individual child. Personally I’d like to have a good enough relationship that my child would talk to me when needed about anything personal.

  • Reply beky austerberry 15/12/2016 at 9:05 am

    I was honest and open with my kids from a very early age – less embarrassment if you can talk early on about anything.

  • Reply Helen Tovell 15/12/2016 at 9:14 am

    When they start asking questions and are old enough to understand the answers, it is different for every child

  • Reply Beverley Cousins 15/12/2016 at 9:40 am

    I think about 11ish, depends on how mature they are x

  • Reply Gaynor Spanswick 15/12/2016 at 10:00 am

    It depends on the child ,if they are asking questions they obviously want to know and are thinking about it .I know twins that the girl started her periods at the age of 9 and the boy had all body hair and a moustache by the age of 11 .My parents didn’t tell me and I wish they had .I was always open about what was going on with my girls and they know they can ask me anything and they still do .

  • Reply Lindsey Stuart 15/12/2016 at 10:29 am

    I think age 11/12 (Just before high school)

  • Reply TRACY JAMES 15/12/2016 at 1:20 pm

    i think 11/12 but every child is diffirent and no one knows your child better then you. i think you will know when the time is right x

  • Reply Aaron Broad 15/12/2016 at 2:56 pm

    I reckon as soon as they are asking questions and can comprehend the answers

  • Reply STACY SORRELL 15/12/2016 at 4:30 pm

    i talk to my 5 year old about having a ‘judy’ wash before bed if its not bath night. to keep clean. mainly as she doesnt wipe very good. but i think secondary school age is when i will explain in a bit more detail, prob when shes 11/12

  • Reply Diana Maxwell 15/12/2016 at 4:45 pm

    Depends on the child. Those that ask questions are easy. Just answer them whenever they are asked (bearing in mind what details the child can understand). The difficult ones are those who never ask…..

  • Reply cara vaughan 15/12/2016 at 5:14 pm

    I think the age of 10 / 11

  • Reply michelle o'neill 15/12/2016 at 6:18 pm

    as soon as they are old enough to understand x

  • Reply Charlotte Moore 15/12/2016 at 7:34 pm

    Age 11

  • Reply Hayley F 15/12/2016 at 7:46 pm

    i think around age 10. Just before puberty but maybe drip feed them information over the years rather than all at once x

  • Reply Marc Chivers 15/12/2016 at 8:20 pm

    Around 8-10

  • Reply Derek Wilson 15/12/2016 at 8:39 pm

    I don’t think you can generalise and it’s really dependent upon the individual child and at what stage of maturity they are. But on average around 10-12.

  • Reply Bob Clark 15/12/2016 at 8:42 pm

    probably when they are teenagers – possibly sooner

  • Reply cheryl g 15/12/2016 at 8:46 pm

    It will be different for each child, but probably when they start asking questions

  • Reply Jessica Howliston 15/12/2016 at 10:22 pm

    I think around 10 would be a good time, before they head up to secondary school. I am sure when they start secondary school and hear lots of information they will have questions so its good for them to know its a subject that can talk to you about.

  • Reply Alica 15/12/2016 at 10:22 pm

    As early as possible. My twins are now all grown up but we have never been shy to talk about intimate things together and if they asked questions, I answered truthfully and factual :)

  • Reply Jules Eley 15/12/2016 at 10:56 pm

    I think as a parent you know your own child, as a mum of 4 my eldest did not feel comfortable talking until around 12 but child number 3 is happy talking about things at 8

  • Reply michelle walford-bratton 16/12/2016 at 12:17 am

    when my girl start noticing things, and i think it beneficial because they will know right from wrong

  • Reply Susan Hoggett 16/12/2016 at 11:58 am

    depends on the child and qhat sort of questions they are asking

  • Reply Sarah Brokenshire 16/12/2016 at 5:45 pm

    i think about 14 when they are mature enough and its will make them feel more comfortable with the changes they are going through x

  • Reply Diane Carey 16/12/2016 at 7:51 pm

    I think I started talking to my daughter around the time she had a slide show and talk just before she left middle school with all the other pupils. They all came out of school at home time talking about it. So it led on from there. But I have always been honest and answered any questions or brought something up with her, if I think it is the appropriate time

  • Reply Diane Waugh 16/12/2016 at 8:11 pm

    11-12 years old

  • Reply Farhana 17/12/2016 at 12:25 am

    It really depends on the child and his/her mental maturity but would be around age 13ish

  • Reply Rebecca Lis 17/12/2016 at 8:03 am

    I would say age 8/9, because its a younger age and will make them know that if they ever need to ask questions or have any problems they can come to us

  • Reply Nicki simpson 17/12/2016 at 10:29 am

    Well I went through puberty at 11 and had OCD although I didn’t know that was what it was at the time, I wish someone had spoken to me about all the changes earlier than this, including intimate and mental health! I’m bloody glad I don’t have to be a teenager again x

  • Reply greig spencer 17/12/2016 at 10:42 am

    i think about 10/12

  • Reply Caroline Cordery 17/12/2016 at 11:11 am

    I think around 7 unless there have been any issues around this area before then. This would be more specific than just general hand washing advice, which can start at age 1.

  • Reply DannyUK 17/12/2016 at 12:49 pm

    I don’t think that there is a right age – any age has to be good!

  • Reply juliette morrison 17/12/2016 at 1:15 pm

    I think as young as 8/9 – schools start discussing that early in lessons and I think as parents we need to know that to support their knowledge

  • Reply Joanne Phillips 17/12/2016 at 7:36 pm

    I think open, honest and frank conversations are important from as soon as children can communicate and understand/ It’s important that they can get knowledge and advice from you so that they can be kept safe and healthy.

  • Reply melanie stirling 17/12/2016 at 8:30 pm

    I think around the age of 9 but my children have always known they can talk to me about anything and we are very close because of it.

  • Reply Amanda tanner 17/12/2016 at 8:47 pm

    Each child can mature faster than others so when ever you think its right for your child

  • Reply Julie Booth 18/12/2016 at 1:41 am

    as soon as they start asking questions

  • Reply Natalie Crossan 18/12/2016 at 3:29 am

    11 years old

  • Reply Rebecca Howells 18/12/2016 at 10:26 am

    It depends how mature the child is. From 9, but def before secondary school.

  • Reply Ruby Spiteri 18/12/2016 at 10:48 am

    I would say from the age 10/11 as they could be asking questions already, aslong as you think they are ready to understand.

  • Reply Imogen Richards 18/12/2016 at 1:34 pm

    I think when they start becoming curious! I dont believe we should hide children from natural things.

  • Reply Deborah Clarke 18/12/2016 at 2:16 pm

    From as soon as they are old enough to understand and communicate so not to make taboo of such subjects

  • Reply Allan Wilson 18/12/2016 at 5:52 pm

    From the start of the teenage years

  • Reply Michelle Ferguson 18/12/2016 at 5:53 pm

    From about 9 years old as thats when they start hearing things

  • Reply michelle speight 18/12/2016 at 6:38 pm

    depends on the child about 9 or 10

  • Reply Katie m 18/12/2016 at 7:11 pm

    About 10 years

  • Reply Anni Ezmerelda Large 18/12/2016 at 7:19 pm

    From about 9 or 10. Girls can start their periods whilst still at primary school and I know how distressing it might be if they didn’t know what was happening to their body.

  • Reply Maggie Coates 18/12/2016 at 7:58 pm

    My thoughts are like yours. Open door to the bathroom and answer any questions

  • Reply gemma raines 18/12/2016 at 7:58 pm

    I think around the age of 9/10 but it depends on the child because they are all different

  • Reply Kay Broomfield 18/12/2016 at 8:47 pm

    Questions should be answered as soon as they start arising, but in an age appropriate fashion.

  • Reply Michelle Carlin 18/12/2016 at 9:59 pm

    I think it’s easier to be open about such things right from the start. I always answer any questions honestly, in an age-appropriate way.

  • Reply Libby Noack 18/12/2016 at 10:39 pm

    From the age of 8 :)

  • Reply ADEINNE TONNER 18/12/2016 at 10:52 pm

    I personally think around nine or ten years old as the earlier you start talking about this sort of stuff it is easier for both the parent and the child.

  • Reply Gillian McClelland 18/12/2016 at 11:12 pm

    I would say as soon as they start asking question as every child is different, just be honest open and approachable so that they feel comfortable asking questions

  • Reply Jane Middleton 18/12/2016 at 11:37 pm

    I think it’s best to start with the basics early 5 – 7, then gradually add details as they grow up

  • Reply Monica Gilbert 18/12/2016 at 11:56 pm

    I honestly think you should start age appropriate conversations basically as soon as they can talk, if not before (ideally from birth). It’s good to talk about how there are parts of the body that are not for others to touch. And it’s important to talk when changing diapers about what you’re doing and how important it is to clean dirty diapers properly. That should be expanded upon when toilet training begins so that the child learns to keep those areas clean and healthy; And it’s good for the child to have an idea of what they will face in the future. My 4 year old daughter often follows me into the bathroom and asks questions about what I’m doing. So I think she has the vague idea that women do have times that they bleed. She definitely knows I have breasts and nipples (and comments on them). This openness will hopefully make conversations about puberty easier to have.

  • Reply Rebecca Smith 19/12/2016 at 12:07 am

    when they can understand so about 8

  • Reply Charlie Brunton 19/12/2016 at 12:48 am

    I think around 9/10 when they start asking questions themselves. I was brought up by my dad and I lived with my 2 brothers so I was very confused about things until we got the internet! I worried that I wasn’t normal etc so I definitely think it should be talked about!

  • Reply Ellen Stafford 19/12/2016 at 12:48 am

    I think it depends on the child but when they can understand.

  • Reply Lynsey Buchanan 19/12/2016 at 1:15 am

    I believe that the right age to discuss intimate health with your children is about 8/9 years old as knowledge is power and being informed will ensure they made hood decisions in the future.

  • Reply Sarah Norgrove 19/12/2016 at 2:01 am

    Just before they hit there teenage years.

  • Reply Jade Hewlett 19/12/2016 at 8:10 am

    I think around 10 as its before they start secondary school or just when the child seems ready as all children are different

  • Reply Lauren Old 19/12/2016 at 10:34 am

    I’d say around 11 when they start secondary school so they’re more aware of it and can be more open talking about it

  • Reply Steph Lovatt 19/12/2016 at 11:55 am

    I think it depends on the child but around the age of 10/11

  • Reply John Ettery 19/12/2016 at 1:45 pm

    Bit tricky for me being a man, but I would suggest that, when they start to ask questions, then that is the right time, be honest and open

  • Reply Milly Youngman 19/12/2016 at 2:27 pm

    I think it depends on the child – but 10/11 seems about right.

  • Reply leanne weir 19/12/2016 at 2:31 pm

    I would say at about aged 10

  • Reply Marrian 19/12/2016 at 3:47 pm

    I think at the start of puberty is appropriate.

  • Reply Sheri Darby 19/12/2016 at 5:24 pm

    About 11, but depends on the maturity of the child

  • Reply alix smith 19/12/2016 at 5:30 pm

    Around 8 or 9 before the changes start happening to their bodies

  • Reply ellie jackson 19/12/2016 at 5:59 pm

    When they start asking before the changes start to happen. It is best to be honest with them, trust is very important, especially when it comes to talking about these sort of things

  • Reply Alison 19/12/2016 at 6:05 pm

    Around nine. You will know as they start asking questions

  • Reply jessica cook 19/12/2016 at 7:48 pm

    I’d say about 10 or 11 before they start senior school

  • Reply sharon martin 19/12/2016 at 9:20 pm

    think it depends on the child but say around 9 or 10 yrs, think its good the understand how/why their bodies changing so they don’t worry needlessly

  • Reply Johanne Currie 19/12/2016 at 9:38 pm

    From 9 so they understand

  • Reply Gillian Holmes 19/12/2016 at 10:04 pm

    I’d say from the age of 9

  • Reply Jennifer Toal 19/12/2016 at 10:05 pm

    When questions are raised answer them age appropiately

  • Reply Robyn Clarke 19/12/2016 at 10:28 pm

    I would say about 10, it would be awful for them if something happened and they weren’t expecting it and didn’t know how to deal with it or felt too embarrassed to look for help.

  • Reply Joanne Blunt 19/12/2016 at 10:29 pm

    Around teh age of 10 as that is when they get ‘the talk’ in school so I would rather them hear it from me first.

  • Reply EJ Dunn 19/12/2016 at 10:36 pm

    When they start to ask questions, or around 8

  • Reply Ashley Whitbread 19/12/2016 at 10:37 pm

    Completely depends on the child, but I’d say the older the better so they understand it better. I wouldn’t hide or be ashamed of anything and be honest and truthful

  • Reply Kristy Brown 19/12/2016 at 10:56 pm

    I think each child is different but for us my daughter was 7 as she started asking questions.

  • Reply Beryl drake 19/12/2016 at 11:07 pm

    From when they ask questions , tailoring your answers appropriately to the age of your child .

  • Reply Mel Turner 19/12/2016 at 11:18 pm

    As soon as they start asking questions. Being open is the key

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  • Reply kate kathurima 19/12/2016 at 11:39 pm

    I think it depends on the childs understanding but aged 11 and up wards

  • Reply Charmian Filewood 20/12/2016 at 12:27 am

    I think you have to judge on each case individually as everyone different. I would say basics can be spoken about when they are 8/9 but then leave the door open for any question later on and increase their knowledge as they get older

  • Reply Kat Glynn 20/12/2016 at 1:13 am

    I think it depends on the individual child

  • Reply Louise A 20/12/2016 at 1:14 am

    I think it depends on how mature the child is, for girls I think around 11 is ok because puberty can kick in at any time and they need to be prepared so they don’t get frightened

  • Reply Richard Tyler 20/12/2016 at 3:39 am

    I”d say around 9-10, but everyone knows right time

  • Reply Carly Belsey 20/12/2016 at 4:43 am

    I think just before they start senior school and that would be beneficial to them to be clued up on things before other children start telling them things which may not be right

  • Reply Vicky Robinson 20/12/2016 at 6:26 am

    The school take them for a few days away where they discuss relationships, puberty, sex etc. in Year 6 (age 10) so this was the time we started discussing things with my daughters. My eldest daughter didn’t want to talk about anything so I left a book in her drawer that she could refer to if she needed to. She’s 13 now and passed it on to my second daughter a year ago. My 2nd daughter had the school talk a month ago and is far more chatty with me. I’m a little unsure whether I will need to discuss things early with my now 8 year old as she is really tall for her age and already is way bigger than her 10 year old sister. 8 feels a little young to discuss growing up and puberty, but I worry she might start going through it early so I will have to address it when she turns 9. I think it all depends on the child.

  • Reply Lucy Chester 20/12/2016 at 8:08 am

    It depends on each individual child and their understanding but I would be open and honest and talk to them as soon as they understand so that it is natural and not something hidden

  • Reply Kim Lam 20/12/2016 at 8:18 am

    I don’t think there is a set age. It all depends on the child

  • Reply Kirsty Woods 20/12/2016 at 8:21 am

    It depends on the individual child and when they have questions

  • Reply Tammy Neal 20/12/2016 at 8:22 am

    Depends how mature the child is but the ideal age would be from 11/12 just before High school and before hormone Change x

  • Reply Emma Fox 20/12/2016 at 8:54 am

    I think around the age of 9/10 before they go to secondary school :)

  • Reply Kaye M 20/12/2016 at 9:06 am

    Before starting secondary school, about age 10/11.

  • Reply Amanda Botterill 20/12/2016 at 9:25 am

    I think you should talk about bodies as soon as they ask about them, usually around the age of 4, and go into more detail as their understanding grows. I don’t believe in ‘the talk’ – just inform them naturally about body issues as you would about anything else

  • Reply Catherine Macnab 20/12/2016 at 9:28 am

    AS soon as the child starts asking, also if they are covering it in health care at school have a follow up at home

  • Reply Nikks 20/12/2016 at 9:38 am

    Depends on the child but i say about 10 before they start at high school and are mixing with older children.

  • Reply caroline tokes 20/12/2016 at 9:59 am

    11/12 once they start secondary school but i always answered mine honestly no matter how old they were I think it helps them not be ashamed about things like that and that thye know if they have any intimate issues they can talk to me

  • Reply Jo Carroll 20/12/2016 at 10:01 am

    It’s a funny one this…as parents we spend the first few years of our children’s lives changing nappies, washing them and brushing their teeth – all the time chatting away to them telling them how ‘it must be done…it’ll make you feel better’ then once they can do it themselves, the conversation abruptly stops. I think we should all just think about that responsibility as a life long duty and keep reminding them how vital personal hygene is and not to turn the topic into a dirty secret…because it simply isn’t. x

  • Reply ELZBIETA ZNYK 20/12/2016 at 10:39 am

    about 10- 11

  • Reply Patricia Avery 20/12/2016 at 11:04 am

    I think it very much depends on the age of your child and you are the one who knows them best :)

  • Reply Ian Campbell 20/12/2016 at 12:04 pm

    Age 12. By then their perceptions of the world have started to develop, and you can simplify certain aspects of the discussion if necessary, to get the points across :)

  • Reply Jamie Millard 20/12/2016 at 12:44 pm

    towards the end of primary school

  • Reply sarah kochan 20/12/2016 at 12:45 pm

    age 10/11

  • Reply Julie Howarth 20/12/2016 at 1:27 pm

    I’d say about 10

  • Reply claire little 20/12/2016 at 1:33 pm

    as soon as they ask questions

  • Reply katrina walsh 20/12/2016 at 2:28 pm

    I think about aged 9 or 10 x x

  • Reply Carole E 20/12/2016 at 3:16 pm

    When they start to ask questions as they all mature at different rates and it happens more naturally.

  • Reply Stephanie Patience 20/12/2016 at 3:50 pm

    I’d say it depends on their maturity level and how fast they’re developing. Some girls start showing signs of puberty early so I’d say around the time of early onset puberty.

  • Reply Lynne Oconnor 20/12/2016 at 3:51 pm

    When they start asking questions, probably around the time they cover such matters at school

  • Reply jade rice 20/12/2016 at 3:59 pm

    id say when puberty starts it woud help them understand self care and pesonal hygene

  • Reply carol boffey 20/12/2016 at 4:29 pm

    about 13 or 14

  • Reply John Jewett 20/12/2016 at 4:50 pm

    Children mature at different ages, so I think it depends on the child

  • Reply Kirsti Peters 20/12/2016 at 4:51 pm

    I think around 10-12 is ideal x

  • Reply Michelle Wild 20/12/2016 at 5:00 pm

    My son didn’t really ask he told me and I suppose took in my response. I think when it’s important to them they ask more questions and then it’s about the emotional side.

  • Reply Rebecca Beesley 20/12/2016 at 5:15 pm

    it’s never too early – i think as an when the questions come up and when the opportunity arises.

  • Reply Allan Fullarton 20/12/2016 at 5:30 pm

    Around 9 years old.

  • Reply Lori Mckillop 20/12/2016 at 6:02 pm

    About 10 :)

  • Reply Rebecca Phillips 20/12/2016 at 7:00 pm

    My parents never ever spoke to me about anything like that and I don’t want to be like that with my kids. I want them to know from early on what everything is but get into more detail just before puberty starts so that they feel comfortable with changes. I want them to know real facts rather than hearing bits and pieces and not knowing the truth. They are 4 and 2 now and this is the first I’ve properly thought about it. I may change my mind!

  • Reply Jessica Hutton 20/12/2016 at 7:12 pm

    I think it all depends on the child. Their maturity, questions they ask ect xx

  • Reply Julie S 20/12/2016 at 7:36 pm

    if our son has asked a question, we’ll answer it. I think it’s important to encourage them to not be embarrassed to ask.

  • Reply Keshia Esgate 20/12/2016 at 7:42 pm

    Around 11 – prevents serious problems going untreated

  • Reply Joanne Hutchings 20/12/2016 at 7:51 pm

    As soon as they start primary school so that these conversations can be normalised from a really early age.

  • Reply Laura Findlay 20/12/2016 at 8:10 pm

    I would say to answer any questions when asked and by the age of 10 to have a proper conversation because that’s where their bodies start to change.

  • Reply Michelle Stokes 20/12/2016 at 8:17 pm

    I think it’s never too early, with my 3 girls I always tried to answer any question they threw at me with open honesty but not too much information that it would scare them.

  • Reply Chirag Patel 20/12/2016 at 8:22 pm

    aged 10-11

  • Reply Juanita Powers 20/12/2016 at 8:23 pm

    When they start asking question, some are ready for a little information about 9 others about 11

  • Reply Deborah Mackenzie 20/12/2016 at 8:52 pm

    It depends on the child, but when they ask questions I think it is important to answer honestly but only enough detail that they understand and you have answered what they are asking. Also, I remember I was younger than so many others when I started puberty and was scared and afraid to ask questions. It was something I havent forgotten. So it is important for parents to know their child and they will then know when it is right.

  • Reply liz ferguson 20/12/2016 at 9:00 pm

    I would say around 12-13 years x

  • Reply Jessica Walker 20/12/2016 at 9:03 pm

    I would say age 10 as at this age some children are already beginning to develop and it can be a confusing time. Each child is different though so some caution may be needed depending on a child’s own personal development not only physically but mentally

  • Reply Sam Parkes 20/12/2016 at 9:13 pm

    About 10 or 11 as that was the age I was told about it in school.

  • Reply Jo McPherson 20/12/2016 at 9:14 pm

    I think around 9 – 10

  • Reply Catherine 20/12/2016 at 9:26 pm

    i’d say about aged 10

  • Reply .Esma Blackwell 20/12/2016 at 9:38 pm

    I had a chat with my 13 year old son recently,I left it till this age as he has Autism.I think he has a understanding to some extent.My daughters I will leave till 11 one currently 10 and 2

  • Reply karen Howden 20/12/2016 at 9:43 pm

    As soon as they start asking the right questions

  • Reply Rebecca Alderson 20/12/2016 at 9:51 pm

    I’d say as soon as possible, integrate it into their normal hygiene from early on

  • Reply Jacqueline Jackson 20/12/2016 at 9:57 pm

    I think 11 years old.

  • Reply Nicola Lynch 20/12/2016 at 10:01 pm

    This is a difficult one. It would depend on the child I guess but around 10 I think.

  • Reply Pauline jaconelli 20/12/2016 at 10:02 pm

    It’s important to talk to young girls around the age of 10, it’s important for them to know that they shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about these things. It’s normal and because there could be underlying issues that they might be too embarrassed to go and see about but if open at a young age they will be more confident to seek help

  • Reply Tina Glover 20/12/2016 at 10:02 pm

    I’ve always been very open with my daughter who is now 11. I would say each chil is different and a parent knows the ideal time for their own child. On average though I would say 9-10 xx

  • Reply Amy Lambert 20/12/2016 at 10:22 pm

    I’d say around 9 just before puberty

  • Reply KARL BOROWY 20/12/2016 at 10:23 pm

    around 12 years of age

  • Reply Michelle Cheeseman 20/12/2016 at 10:27 pm

    Dependent on their maturity, I would say around 9 – 10 years. My Daughter has started Primary school this year so may start to hear some of the older Children talking about things.

  • Reply Victoria Mylittlel 20/12/2016 at 10:52 pm

    i would say about 12, there is nothing to be shy about or worried, its an a normal, daily thing

  • Reply Sunita verma 20/12/2016 at 11:05 pm

    If u know your child well enough you will always know the right time

  • Reply paula cheadle 20/12/2016 at 11:09 pm

    I started talking to mine when they were young, as when when they grow up it won’t be embarrassing to come and ask me any questions

  • Reply tammi nutting 20/12/2016 at 11:16 pm

    around 10 .

  • Reply Tina Deacon 20/12/2016 at 11:20 pm

    I think about 9-10 but dies depend on each child, my son has already learnt about menopause etc at school and he’s 10

  • Reply tishist 20/12/2016 at 11:44 pm

    About 8 or 9

  • Reply laura pyper 20/12/2016 at 11:47 pm

    probably around 10 when there body starts changing so they now what is happening and are happy to discus anything the are worried about

  • Reply Jane Gorton 21/12/2016 at 12:00 am

    Around 10 but it all depends on your child, you know best! Fantastic prize, thank you so much x

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