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Mummy conversations about intimate health

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Growing up is tough. At school there may be issues with friends, difference of opinions and then interest in boys develops, it all gets a little complicated. Throw puberty and hormones into the mix and life as a teenager can be pretty gruelling. So when puberty hit me, I was completely overwhelmed but thankfully my Mom was a huge support to me.

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I’ve always had a really open relationship with my Mom (it was a bit rocky during my late teenage years as I didn’t want to open up to her, but her arms were always open and her shoulders ready for me to cry on!) My Mom has always been quite honest with me and my Sister about what female issues we would face, as well as all the questions we had entering puberty and although it may have been a little embarrassing at the time, looking back she really did help us on our way to understanding what was going on with our bodies. We could always ask her questions and she’d find a way to tell us in a way that we understood.

Intimate health has always been a topic of conversation that we’ve discussed openly. As a young child, I suffered with regular bladder infections and so being able to speak to my Mom about it was reassuring and comforting. I knew I could tell her about my symptoms and she’d support me in getting well again. It’s so important to normalise these conversations. They should never be embarrassing or difficult to have, it’s just part of normal everyday life. With the absence of formal intimate health education, these conversations are more important than ever.

When I fell pregnant with Olly, I suffered with thrush and found it completely alien to me.  I had always known what was normal for me but when the added hormones kicked it, it really knocked me for six and unfortunately I ended up getting thrush. I was able to talk to my Mom about it, found out it was actually really common and not to worry about it. Did you know that thrush is actually very common? 3 our of 4 women suffer from it at least once during their lives but without having these conversations, not many people know this.  I popped to my local chemist and was able to self-treat it easily and confidently.

Although I’m a Mum to a three year old boy, I’m not embarrassed to talk to him  about intimate health (obviously not in detail) but we have an open door policy on the bathroom (doesn’t everybody with young children?) and he always asks questions about my sanitary products and what they’re for. If we were ever to have a little girl, I’m pretty sure my approach to parenting would be exactly the same as it has been with Olly following in my Mom’s footsteps with me and my Sister. Lets empower our children with the knowledge about intimate health (when we as Parents think they’re ready for it) to enable them to grow confidently and educated. Lets have these conversations and make it part of every day life.

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242 Comments

  • Reply Tracy Nixon

    I’d say from the age of 9!

    13/12/2016 at 5:01 am
  • Reply Rachel @ Coffee, Cake, Kids

    As soon as the start asking questions. My little ones (boys all under 6) quite regularly talk to me and their dad about their bits & pieces, if they’re sore or they think something is wrong.It will hopefully mean that they can talk to us about anything as they get older, just as my brothers and I could with my parents.

    13/12/2016 at 6:44 am
  • Reply Rebecca C

    I’ve always been open with my daughters from when they were very young. But more about intimate health from the point at which they had their school talk in year 6–so age 10.

    13/12/2016 at 9:52 am
  • Reply Nina C

    I think as soon as they can understand things you should be open and talk to them using age appropriate terms. I don’t think there is any specific age, it depends on the child and the subject.

    13/12/2016 at 9:58 am
  • Reply Jennifer Haden

    I think it really depends on the child, but maybe around the age of 12-13 seems about right x

    13/12/2016 at 10:19 am
  • Reply Tracey Peach

    Around 10 because it will be just before their body’s start to change so they will know what’s going to happen

    13/12/2016 at 10:29 am
  • Reply Zoe C

    Around age 10, depends on the child really, definitely beneficial as they need to be aware of own hygiene etc

    13/12/2016 at 10:37 am
  • Reply Alice Dixon

    I think it depends on the child. I have an almost 4 year old son who is very inquisitive. I always answer his questions openly and honestly and as accurately as I can to be suitable for his age. I think it’s beneficial to start young, to always know this is part of life

    13/12/2016 at 10:38 am
  • Reply Sarah Homer

    I started talking to my daughter about this around 9 as she was asking questions and i felt she was the right age. It is beneficial as they need to grow up being confident about their bodies and love their bodies

    13/12/2016 at 10:43 am
  • Reply Tracey Ryder

    think about 10-11 as there body starts to change

    13/12/2016 at 10:46 am
  • Reply Heather Haigh

    I don’t think there’s a specific age, I think it’s when the kids are ready and it’s just part of the ‘changing bodies’ coversations we have with our kids.

    13/12/2016 at 11:12 am
  • Reply Kat

    My daughter is six and isn’t really interested but we do talk about keeping ourselves clean and we’ve briefly talked about periods. Which is tough as I don’t have one each month at the moment because of the implant. I think I will always try to answer her questions as honestly as possible and base on her maturity.

    13/12/2016 at 11:27 am
  • Reply clair downham

    about 9 before puberty

    13/12/2016 at 11:33 am
  • Reply laura stewart

    i think around the age of 11

    13/12/2016 at 12:01 pm
  • Reply Helen Moulden

    Around the age of 9/10 years old

    13/12/2016 at 12:02 pm
  • Reply Kim Neville

    Around age 9. Some children start puberty early and kids talk at school. Make them feel comfortable talking about personal things with you

    13/12/2016 at 12:07 pm
  • Reply gabby evans

    around 9

    13/12/2016 at 12:08 pm
  • Reply iain maciver

    MAYBE 10 -11 YEARS

    13/12/2016 at 12:08 pm
  • Reply Sarah Mackay

    I would say about 9 years of age

    13/12/2016 at 12:09 pm
  • Reply Jamielee Wells

    I think nowadays its getting earlier and earlier – id say 12 years old is a good age and for them to be able to understand

    13/12/2016 at 12:20 pm
  • Reply Ann Robinson

    I think about 11 is a good time, however if they have any questions before that i would answer them with an age appropriate response.

    13/12/2016 at 12:22 pm
  • Reply paul

    around 10 yeard old

    13/12/2016 at 12:28 pm
  • Reply Emma Gibson

    About 8 to start them young.

    13/12/2016 at 12:31 pm
  • Reply Kamara

    Around 10 or 11 when they start to have questions. Better to answer and teach them early.

    13/12/2016 at 12:47 pm
  • Reply Sue McCarthy

    I don’t have any kids but about 10 I suppose

    13/12/2016 at 12:51 pm
  • Reply S Edwards

    8-9 as its always good to inform them as soon as possible

    13/12/2016 at 12:56 pm
  • Reply sam macaree

    when they start to ask and it shows they are ready to learn

    13/12/2016 at 1:05 pm
  • Reply Rea Louise Smith

    Personally I think every child is different and talking about intimate health to your children is obviously needed, but there shouldn’t be one specific age, it’s all down to the child and when you as a parent think is best. Perhaps during puberty, when they get their first partner, during pregnancy, or a lot younger. There’s always opportunities to do so and should be done when you feel the time is needed.

    13/12/2016 at 1:05 pm
  • Reply Jo Young

    I think it depends on each child as they’re all different but I’d say about 7 years old. It’s important so they can stay healthy.

    13/12/2016 at 1:17 pm
  • Reply karen hill

    I think at any age you are in a serious relationship you need to discuss it, me and my husband discussed after we had been together for a year, since i was told i was unable to have kids i knew it would have to be talked about, he was fine with that, then things completely changed when i did fall pregnant, luckily he was over the moon with that too. We have been together 10 years now, we have a gorgeous 1 year old and who would have thought it lol x

    13/12/2016 at 1:35 pm
  • Reply Ann-Marie Gould

    i think around age 10 is the right age

    13/12/2016 at 1:53 pm
  • Reply amy bondoc

    i think about 10/11 years old but depends really on the child and when puberty starts

    13/12/2016 at 2:08 pm
  • Reply caroline walliss

    I’d say between 11 and 12 but depends on maturity – i think it’s very beneficial because there is things they should know before experimenting, thanks.x

    13/12/2016 at 2:14 pm
  • Reply Kay Sherman

    My daughter is 11 we talk about this a lot

    13/12/2016 at 2:24 pm
  • Reply Mrs Sam Goodwin

    10 or 11 I think, alongside when the school do.

    13/12/2016 at 2:25 pm
  • Reply Fiona K

    I think about 11 when the child is starting to mature and develop physically

    13/12/2016 at 2:57 pm
  • Reply Sara Goodman

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    13/12/2016 at 3:40 pm
  • Reply ElegantlyHafsah

    I think children are a lot more open now, and start to learn things at school much, much earlier than we did, and so inevitably they usually come home and ask questions, and I think that’s a good time to have a sit down.

    13/12/2016 at 3:59 pm
  • Reply lucy higgins

    i think around the age of 9 and to be open and honest about it

    13/12/2016 at 4:11 pm
  • Reply Justine Hughes

    About age 10 and so that they understand what’s going on and know they can talk to you about it in the future.

    13/12/2016 at 5:27 pm
  • Reply MANDY DOHERTY

    When children start becoming curious and asking questions as I feel that they are ready to stare discussing intimate health

    13/12/2016 at 6:20 pm
  • Reply sarah birkett

    It varies on the child, and exactly what you are discussing, but it should probably start at the end of KS2 and continue from there

    13/12/2016 at 7:24 pm
  • Reply Laura Banks

    probably about age 11

    13/12/2016 at 7:40 pm
  • Reply Natasha Mairs

    This is a tough question, but I would say I would start talking to my daughter around 10.

    13/12/2016 at 7:47 pm
  • Reply Jo Hutchinson

    Around nine or when the child is ready, and make the chat normal as possible

    13/12/2016 at 8:07 pm
  • Reply Susan Smith

    I think when you think they are old enough to understand, some kids grow up faster than others, so i think its personal choice, when you think they are old enough

    13/12/2016 at 8:17 pm
  • Reply Hilda Wright

    I just talked to my son about stuff whenever it felt right, by treating it as just a normal part of life it is easy! He can talk to me about anything and does! My bathroom cabinet is crammed with Canisten right now!

    13/12/2016 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply Emma Rawlinson

    I would say around 10 years old. I think it’s important for them to know before they reach puberty to be most beneficial

    13/12/2016 at 8:29 pm
  • Reply Toni Pearson

    It’s never too early to talk about…just talk at their level…answer any questions with as much info as they need…often just a few words is enough.

    13/12/2016 at 8:30 pm
  • Reply Emily OMara

    i would say from 14 onwards, its important for them to speak out as it could prevent potential issues in their future

    13/12/2016 at 8:32 pm
  • Reply Jemma Taylor

    I think just before they go into secondary school as this is when they start to change. It would help them to be a bit more relaxed about things.

    13/12/2016 at 8:33 pm
  • Reply Danielle Rawlings

    As soon as they hit puberty, they will start to learn about their bodies then

    13/12/2016 at 8:48 pm
  • Reply barbara daniels

    about 12 or 13 would be the ideal age

    13/12/2016 at 8:58 pm
  • Reply carole n

    when they are mature enough to understand

    13/12/2016 at 9:04 pm
  • Reply Alana Walker

    Probably at about 10 or 11 just before they go to secondary school or reach puberty,

    13/12/2016 at 9:07 pm
  • Reply Tee simpson

    I think as soon as they show understand. Maybe aged 2 because tge earlier the better. Its so important to gain trust and make sure they know whats ok and not

    13/12/2016 at 9:18 pm
  • Reply Angela Sandhu

    9 or 10

    13/12/2016 at 9:36 pm
  • Reply Rachael G

    I think the earlier the better so that it becomes normal. As long as conversation is age appropriate, I think it is good for them to know about at an early age.

    13/12/2016 at 9:42 pm
  • Reply sue smith

    Loved this and like your lovely mum me and my girls have the same openness.
    I am glad they were able to talk to me x

    13/12/2016 at 9:42 pm
  • Reply Hannah Igoe

    I think its really important to build it in from when they are small, that way them and you don’t feel awkward and they never feel like they can’t ask

    13/12/2016 at 9:42 pm
  • Reply Sam McKean

    About 10/11 years of age before they start to feel self conscious and reluctant to chat openly

    13/12/2016 at 9:43 pm
  • Reply Jenna Parrington

    I think it depends on the child and their level of maturity. I’d say between 8-12?

    13/12/2016 at 9:50 pm
  • Reply Sarah prescott

    I think around age 11 just before they go to secondary school

    13/12/2016 at 9:53 pm
  • Reply Stephanie Coals

    I think just before they go to secondary school is an appropriate time so at about 11 years old

    13/12/2016 at 9:54 pm
  • Reply Anthony Harrington

    I think it depends of the maturity of the child, i think around 9 -10 if the child is ready.

    13/12/2016 at 10:07 pm
  • Reply Tammy Westrup

    Probably from about the age of 9 but if they ask questions sooner answer then in a way appropriate for their age

    13/12/2016 at 10:46 pm
  • Reply Laura Jeffs

    I don’t think there’s a specific age, all kids are different..if they’re mature enough, probably around 9/10 years old is ideal

    13/12/2016 at 10:56 pm
  • Reply Solange

    Around 10 or 11

    13/12/2016 at 11:19 pm
  • Reply Sinead ORourke

    13 as they are now teenagers

    13/12/2016 at 11:26 pm
  • Reply Emma Salter

    It depends on how mature they are. I think as a mother you know when the time is right.

    14/12/2016 at 12:31 am
  • Reply Becky Duffy

    About age 9-10 or when they start asking questions!

    14/12/2016 at 12:40 am
  • Reply Stuart Allen

    as soon as the teens start!

    14/12/2016 at 2:24 am
  • Reply Jay

    From birth onwards, as soon as they know how to talk…basics like hygiene and anatomy can be taught from infancy, as they get older you can build on that knowledge.

    14/12/2016 at 4:19 am
  • Reply Lynn Heath

    I think that it important to keep the lines of communication open with your kids and the way to do that is to be open and honest – I’ve explained to my 8 year old about periods and that one day she will have them too, and about making sure she is not ashamed so that she knows she can come to me about anything

    14/12/2016 at 6:14 am
  • Reply Jess Mary

    I think 8-9 would be the perfect age to start talking about these things

    14/12/2016 at 1:17 pm
  • Reply Jennifer Bruce

    For me personally, I think the summer holidays before going into year 5, but, understandably p, different for every parent

    14/12/2016 at 1:24 pm
  • Reply Abigail Cullen

    I would say from the age of 8, as they grow up so quickly now.

    14/12/2016 at 2:29 pm
  • Reply gemma brown

    My eldest has been asking questions since he was about 8 and I’ll answer them as best I can.

    14/12/2016 at 4:42 pm
  • Reply Kara W

    I’d say from about 11/12 when they are starting secondary school. Any younger and it might just go right over their heads.

    14/12/2016 at 6:39 pm
  • Reply Kim Styles

    Probably about 10 is right, definately pre puberty

    14/12/2016 at 7:51 pm
  • Reply Janice

    I would try and gently bring it up from a young age

    14/12/2016 at 8:02 pm
  • Reply Jayne Townson

    I think as soon as they start asking questions and certainly before they start secondary school, because if it’s something you’ve always spoke about, it makes not such a big deal.

    14/12/2016 at 8:56 pm
  • Reply Ellen Sheppard

    I think it depends on the maturity of the child but I would say around 10-11. I think it’s important to instil good hygiene at an early age.

    14/12/2016 at 8:58 pm
  • Reply Rebecca Nisbet

    it depends on the subject i think.

    14/12/2016 at 10:55 pm
  • Reply Emily Knight

    Whenever they start to ask about it (tailoring answers for their age) so they’re not too embarrassed to ask questions in the future

    15/12/2016 at 7:29 am
  • Reply Sally Collingwood

    About 11, before scondary school

    15/12/2016 at 8:35 am
  • Reply Kelly Hemmings

    I’d say around the age of 12, but really depends on individual child. Personally I’d like to have a good enough relationship that my child would talk to me when needed about anything personal.

    15/12/2016 at 8:52 am
  • Reply beky austerberry

    I was honest and open with my kids from a very early age – less embarrassment if you can talk early on about anything.

    15/12/2016 at 9:05 am
  • Reply Helen Tovell

    When they start asking questions and are old enough to understand the answers, it is different for every child

    15/12/2016 at 9:14 am
  • Reply Beverley Cousins

    I think about 11ish, depends on how mature they are x

    15/12/2016 at 9:40 am
  • Reply Gaynor Spanswick

    It depends on the child ,if they are asking questions they obviously want to know and are thinking about it .I know twins that the girl started her periods at the age of 9 and the boy had all body hair and a moustache by the age of 11 .My parents didn’t tell me and I wish they had .I was always open about what was going on with my girls and they know they can ask me anything and they still do .

    15/12/2016 at 10:00 am
  • Reply Lindsey Stuart

    I think age 11/12 (Just before high school)

    15/12/2016 at 10:29 am
  • Reply TRACY JAMES

    i think 11/12 but every child is diffirent and no one knows your child better then you. i think you will know when the time is right x

    15/12/2016 at 1:20 pm
  • Reply Aaron Broad

    I reckon as soon as they are asking questions and can comprehend the answers

    15/12/2016 at 2:56 pm
  • Reply STACY SORRELL

    i talk to my 5 year old about having a ‘judy’ wash before bed if its not bath night. to keep clean. mainly as she doesnt wipe very good. but i think secondary school age is when i will explain in a bit more detail, prob when shes 11/12

    15/12/2016 at 4:30 pm
  • Reply Diana Maxwell

    Depends on the child. Those that ask questions are easy. Just answer them whenever they are asked (bearing in mind what details the child can understand). The difficult ones are those who never ask…..

    15/12/2016 at 4:45 pm
  • Reply cara vaughan

    I think the age of 10 / 11

    15/12/2016 at 5:14 pm
  • Reply michelle o'neill

    as soon as they are old enough to understand x

    15/12/2016 at 6:18 pm
  • Reply Charlotte Moore

    Age 11

    15/12/2016 at 7:34 pm
  • Reply Hayley F

    i think around age 10. Just before puberty but maybe drip feed them information over the years rather than all at once x

    15/12/2016 at 7:46 pm
  • Reply Marc Chivers

    Around 8-10

    15/12/2016 at 8:20 pm
  • Reply Derek Wilson

    I don’t think you can generalise and it’s really dependent upon the individual child and at what stage of maturity they are. But on average around 10-12.

    15/12/2016 at 8:39 pm
  • Reply Bob Clark

    probably when they are teenagers – possibly sooner

    15/12/2016 at 8:42 pm
  • Reply cheryl g

    It will be different for each child, but probably when they start asking questions

    15/12/2016 at 8:46 pm
  • Reply Jessica Howliston

    I think around 10 would be a good time, before they head up to secondary school. I am sure when they start secondary school and hear lots of information they will have questions so its good for them to know its a subject that can talk to you about.

    15/12/2016 at 10:22 pm
  • Reply Alica

    As early as possible. My twins are now all grown up but we have never been shy to talk about intimate things together and if they asked questions, I answered truthfully and factual :)

    15/12/2016 at 10:22 pm
  • Reply Jules Eley

    I think as a parent you know your own child, as a mum of 4 my eldest did not feel comfortable talking until around 12 but child number 3 is happy talking about things at 8

    15/12/2016 at 10:56 pm
  • Reply michelle walford-bratton

    when my girl start noticing things, and i think it beneficial because they will know right from wrong

    16/12/2016 at 12:17 am
  • Reply Susan Hoggett

    depends on the child and qhat sort of questions they are asking

    16/12/2016 at 11:58 am
  • Reply Sarah Brokenshire

    i think about 14 when they are mature enough and its will make them feel more comfortable with the changes they are going through x

    16/12/2016 at 5:45 pm
  • Reply Diane Carey

    I think I started talking to my daughter around the time she had a slide show and talk just before she left middle school with all the other pupils. They all came out of school at home time talking about it. So it led on from there. But I have always been honest and answered any questions or brought something up with her, if I think it is the appropriate time

    16/12/2016 at 7:51 pm
  • Reply Diane Waugh

    11-12 years old

    16/12/2016 at 8:11 pm
  • Reply Farhana

    It really depends on the child and his/her mental maturity but would be around age 13ish

    17/12/2016 at 12:25 am
  • Reply Rebecca Lis

    I would say age 8/9, because its a younger age and will make them know that if they ever need to ask questions or have any problems they can come to us

    17/12/2016 at 8:03 am
  • Reply Nicki simpson

    Well I went through puberty at 11 and had OCD although I didn’t know that was what it was at the time, I wish someone had spoken to me about all the changes earlier than this, including intimate and mental health! I’m bloody glad I don’t have to be a teenager again x

    17/12/2016 at 10:29 am
  • Reply greig spencer

    i think about 10/12

    17/12/2016 at 10:42 am
  • Reply Caroline Cordery

    I think around 7 unless there have been any issues around this area before then. This would be more specific than just general hand washing advice, which can start at age 1.

    17/12/2016 at 11:11 am
  • Reply DannyUK

    I don’t think that there is a right age – any age has to be good!

    17/12/2016 at 12:49 pm
  • Reply juliette morrison

    I think as young as 8/9 – schools start discussing that early in lessons and I think as parents we need to know that to support their knowledge

    17/12/2016 at 1:15 pm
  • Reply Joanne Phillips

    I think open, honest and frank conversations are important from as soon as children can communicate and understand/ It’s important that they can get knowledge and advice from you so that they can be kept safe and healthy.

    17/12/2016 at 7:36 pm
  • Reply melanie stirling

    I think around the age of 9 but my children have always known they can talk to me about anything and we are very close because of it.

    17/12/2016 at 8:30 pm
  • Reply Amanda tanner

    Each child can mature faster than others so when ever you think its right for your child

    17/12/2016 at 8:47 pm
  • Reply Julie Booth

    as soon as they start asking questions

    18/12/2016 at 1:41 am
  • Reply Natalie Crossan

    11 years old

    18/12/2016 at 3:29 am
  • Reply Rebecca Howells

    It depends how mature the child is. From 9, but def before secondary school.

    18/12/2016 at 10:26 am
  • Reply Ruby Spiteri

    I would say from the age 10/11 as they could be asking questions already, aslong as you think they are ready to understand.

    18/12/2016 at 10:48 am
  • Reply Imogen Richards

    I think when they start becoming curious! I dont believe we should hide children from natural things.

    18/12/2016 at 1:34 pm
  • Reply Deborah Clarke

    From as soon as they are old enough to understand and communicate so not to make taboo of such subjects

    18/12/2016 at 2:16 pm
  • Reply Allan Wilson

    From the start of the teenage years

    18/12/2016 at 5:52 pm
  • Reply Michelle Ferguson

    From about 9 years old as thats when they start hearing things

    18/12/2016 at 5:53 pm
  • Reply michelle speight

    depends on the child about 9 or 10

    18/12/2016 at 6:38 pm
  • Reply Katie m

    About 10 years

    18/12/2016 at 7:11 pm
  • Reply Anni Ezmerelda Large

    From about 9 or 10. Girls can start their periods whilst still at primary school and I know how distressing it might be if they didn’t know what was happening to their body.

    18/12/2016 at 7:19 pm
  • Reply Maggie Coates

    My thoughts are like yours. Open door to the bathroom and answer any questions

    18/12/2016 at 7:58 pm
  • Reply gemma raines

    I think around the age of 9/10 but it depends on the child because they are all different

    18/12/2016 at 7:58 pm
  • Reply Kay Broomfield

    Questions should be answered as soon as they start arising, but in an age appropriate fashion.

    18/12/2016 at 8:47 pm
  • Reply Michelle Carlin

    I think it’s easier to be open about such things right from the start. I always answer any questions honestly, in an age-appropriate way.

    18/12/2016 at 9:59 pm
  • Reply Libby Noack

    From the age of 8 :)

    18/12/2016 at 10:39 pm
  • Reply ADEINNE TONNER

    I personally think around nine or ten years old as the earlier you start talking about this sort of stuff it is easier for both the parent and the child.

    18/12/2016 at 10:52 pm
  • Reply Gillian McClelland

    I would say as soon as they start asking question as every child is different, just be honest open and approachable so that they feel comfortable asking questions

    18/12/2016 at 11:12 pm
  • Reply Jane Middleton

    I think it’s best to start with the basics early 5 – 7, then gradually add details as they grow up

    18/12/2016 at 11:37 pm
  • Reply Monica Gilbert

    I honestly think you should start age appropriate conversations basically as soon as they can talk, if not before (ideally from birth). It’s good to talk about how there are parts of the body that are not for others to touch. And it’s important to talk when changing diapers about what you’re doing and how important it is to clean dirty diapers properly. That should be expanded upon when toilet training begins so that the child learns to keep those areas clean and healthy; And it’s good for the child to have an idea of what they will face in the future. My 4 year old daughter often follows me into the bathroom and asks questions about what I’m doing. So I think she has the vague idea that women do have times that they bleed. She definitely knows I have breasts and nipples (and comments on them). This openness will hopefully make conversations about puberty easier to have.

    18/12/2016 at 11:56 pm
  • Reply Rebecca Smith

    when they can understand so about 8

    19/12/2016 at 12:07 am
  • Reply Charlie Brunton

    I think around 9/10 when they start asking questions themselves. I was brought up by my dad and I lived with my 2 brothers so I was very confused about things until we got the internet! I worried that I wasn’t normal etc so I definitely think it should be talked about!

    19/12/2016 at 12:48 am
  • Reply Ellen Stafford

    I think it depends on the child but when they can understand.

    19/12/2016 at 12:48 am
  • Reply Lynsey Buchanan

    I believe that the right age to discuss intimate health with your children is about 8/9 years old as knowledge is power and being informed will ensure they made hood decisions in the future.

    19/12/2016 at 1:15 am
  • Reply Sarah Norgrove

    Just before they hit there teenage years.

    19/12/2016 at 2:01 am
  • Reply Jade Hewlett

    I think around 10 as its before they start secondary school or just when the child seems ready as all children are different

    19/12/2016 at 8:10 am
  • Reply Lauren Old

    I’d say around 11 when they start secondary school so they’re more aware of it and can be more open talking about it

    19/12/2016 at 10:34 am
  • Reply Steph Lovatt

    I think it depends on the child but around the age of 10/11

    19/12/2016 at 11:55 am
  • Reply John Ettery

    Bit tricky for me being a man, but I would suggest that, when they start to ask questions, then that is the right time, be honest and open

    19/12/2016 at 1:45 pm
  • Reply Milly Youngman

    I think it depends on the child – but 10/11 seems about right.

    19/12/2016 at 2:27 pm
  • Reply leanne weir

    I would say at about aged 10

    19/12/2016 at 2:31 pm
  • Reply Marrian

    I think at the start of puberty is appropriate.

    19/12/2016 at 3:47 pm
  • Reply Sheri Darby

    About 11, but depends on the maturity of the child

    19/12/2016 at 5:24 pm
  • Reply alix smith

    Around 8 or 9 before the changes start happening to their bodies

    19/12/2016 at 5:30 pm
  • Reply ellie jackson

    When they start asking before the changes start to happen. It is best to be honest with them, trust is very important, especially when it comes to talking about these sort of things

    19/12/2016 at 5:59 pm
  • Reply Alison

    Around nine. You will know as they start asking questions

    19/12/2016 at 6:05 pm
  • Reply jessica cook

    I’d say about 10 or 11 before they start senior school

    19/12/2016 at 7:48 pm
  • Reply sharon martin

    think it depends on the child but say around 9 or 10 yrs, think its good the understand how/why their bodies changing so they don’t worry needlessly

    19/12/2016 at 9:20 pm
  • Reply Johanne Currie

    From 9 so they understand

    19/12/2016 at 9:38 pm
  • Reply Gillian Holmes

    I’d say from the age of 9

    19/12/2016 at 10:04 pm
  • Reply Jennifer Toal

    When questions are raised answer them age appropiately

    19/12/2016 at 10:05 pm
  • Reply Robyn Clarke

    I would say about 10, it would be awful for them if something happened and they weren’t expecting it and didn’t know how to deal with it or felt too embarrassed to look for help.

    19/12/2016 at 10:28 pm
  • Reply Joanne Blunt

    Around teh age of 10 as that is when they get ‘the talk’ in school so I would rather them hear it from me first.

    19/12/2016 at 10:29 pm
  • Reply EJ Dunn

    When they start to ask questions, or around 8

    19/12/2016 at 10:36 pm
  • Reply Ashley Whitbread

    Completely depends on the child, but I’d say the older the better so they understand it better. I wouldn’t hide or be ashamed of anything and be honest and truthful

    19/12/2016 at 10:37 pm
  • Reply Kristy Brown

    I think each child is different but for us my daughter was 7 as she started asking questions.

    19/12/2016 at 10:56 pm
  • Reply Beryl drake

    From when they ask questions , tailoring your answers appropriately to the age of your child .

    19/12/2016 at 11:07 pm
  • Reply Mel Turner

    As soon as they start asking questions. Being open is the key

    19/12/2016 at 11:18 pm
  • Reply amy pest

    5

    19/12/2016 at 11:31 pm
  • Reply kate kathurima

    I think it depends on the childs understanding but aged 11 and up wards

    19/12/2016 at 11:39 pm
  • Reply Charmian Filewood

    I think you have to judge on each case individually as everyone different. I would say basics can be spoken about when they are 8/9 but then leave the door open for any question later on and increase their knowledge as they get older

    20/12/2016 at 12:27 am
  • Reply Kat Glynn

    I think it depends on the individual child

    20/12/2016 at 1:13 am
  • Reply Louise A

    I think it depends on how mature the child is, for girls I think around 11 is ok because puberty can kick in at any time and they need to be prepared so they don’t get frightened

    20/12/2016 at 1:14 am
  • Reply Richard Tyler

    I”d say around 9-10, but everyone knows right time

    20/12/2016 at 3:39 am
  • Reply Carly Belsey

    I think just before they start senior school and that would be beneficial to them to be clued up on things before other children start telling them things which may not be right

    20/12/2016 at 4:43 am
  • Reply Vicky Robinson

    The school take them for a few days away where they discuss relationships, puberty, sex etc. in Year 6 (age 10) so this was the time we started discussing things with my daughters. My eldest daughter didn’t want to talk about anything so I left a book in her drawer that she could refer to if she needed to. She’s 13 now and passed it on to my second daughter a year ago. My 2nd daughter had the school talk a month ago and is far more chatty with me. I’m a little unsure whether I will need to discuss things early with my now 8 year old as she is really tall for her age and already is way bigger than her 10 year old sister. 8 feels a little young to discuss growing up and puberty, but I worry she might start going through it early so I will have to address it when she turns 9. I think it all depends on the child.

    20/12/2016 at 6:26 am
  • Reply Lucy Chester

    It depends on each individual child and their understanding but I would be open and honest and talk to them as soon as they understand so that it is natural and not something hidden

    20/12/2016 at 8:08 am
  • Reply Kim Lam

    I don’t think there is a set age. It all depends on the child

    20/12/2016 at 8:18 am
  • Reply Kirsty Woods

    It depends on the individual child and when they have questions

    20/12/2016 at 8:21 am
  • Reply Tammy Neal

    Depends how mature the child is but the ideal age would be from 11/12 just before High school and before hormone Change x

    20/12/2016 at 8:22 am
  • Reply Emma Fox

    I think around the age of 9/10 before they go to secondary school :)

    20/12/2016 at 8:54 am
  • Reply Kaye M

    Before starting secondary school, about age 10/11.

    20/12/2016 at 9:06 am
  • Reply Amanda Botterill

    I think you should talk about bodies as soon as they ask about them, usually around the age of 4, and go into more detail as their understanding grows. I don’t believe in ‘the talk’ – just inform them naturally about body issues as you would about anything else

    20/12/2016 at 9:25 am
  • Reply Catherine Macnab

    AS soon as the child starts asking, also if they are covering it in health care at school have a follow up at home

    20/12/2016 at 9:28 am
  • Reply Nikks

    Depends on the child but i say about 10 before they start at high school and are mixing with older children.

    20/12/2016 at 9:38 am
  • Reply caroline tokes

    11/12 once they start secondary school but i always answered mine honestly no matter how old they were I think it helps them not be ashamed about things like that and that thye know if they have any intimate issues they can talk to me

    20/12/2016 at 9:59 am
  • Reply Jo Carroll

    It’s a funny one this…as parents we spend the first few years of our children’s lives changing nappies, washing them and brushing their teeth – all the time chatting away to them telling them how ‘it must be done…it’ll make you feel better’ then once they can do it themselves, the conversation abruptly stops. I think we should all just think about that responsibility as a life long duty and keep reminding them how vital personal hygene is and not to turn the topic into a dirty secret…because it simply isn’t. x

    20/12/2016 at 10:01 am
  • Reply ELZBIETA ZNYK

    about 10- 11

    20/12/2016 at 10:39 am
  • Reply Patricia Avery

    I think it very much depends on the age of your child and you are the one who knows them best :)

    20/12/2016 at 11:04 am
  • Reply Ian Campbell

    Age 12. By then their perceptions of the world have started to develop, and you can simplify certain aspects of the discussion if necessary, to get the points across :)

    20/12/2016 at 12:04 pm
  • Reply Jamie Millard

    towards the end of primary school

    20/12/2016 at 12:44 pm
  • Reply sarah kochan

    age 10/11

    20/12/2016 at 12:45 pm
  • Reply Julie Howarth

    I’d say about 10

    20/12/2016 at 1:27 pm
  • Reply claire little

    as soon as they ask questions

    20/12/2016 at 1:33 pm
  • Reply katrina walsh

    I think about aged 9 or 10 x x

    20/12/2016 at 2:28 pm
  • Reply Carole E

    When they start to ask questions as they all mature at different rates and it happens more naturally.

    20/12/2016 at 3:16 pm
  • Reply Stephanie Patience

    I’d say it depends on their maturity level and how fast they’re developing. Some girls start showing signs of puberty early so I’d say around the time of early onset puberty.

    20/12/2016 at 3:50 pm
  • Reply Lynne Oconnor

    When they start asking questions, probably around the time they cover such matters at school

    20/12/2016 at 3:51 pm
  • Reply jade rice

    id say when puberty starts it woud help them understand self care and pesonal hygene

    20/12/2016 at 3:59 pm
  • Reply carol boffey

    about 13 or 14

    20/12/2016 at 4:29 pm
  • Reply John Jewett

    Children mature at different ages, so I think it depends on the child

    20/12/2016 at 4:50 pm
  • Reply Kirsti Peters

    I think around 10-12 is ideal x

    20/12/2016 at 4:51 pm
  • Reply Michelle Wild

    My son didn’t really ask he told me and I suppose took in my response. I think when it’s important to them they ask more questions and then it’s about the emotional side.

    20/12/2016 at 5:00 pm
  • Reply Rebecca Beesley

    it’s never too early – i think as an when the questions come up and when the opportunity arises.

    20/12/2016 at 5:15 pm
  • Reply Allan Fullarton

    Around 9 years old.

    20/12/2016 at 5:30 pm
  • Reply Lori Mckillop

    About 10 :)

    20/12/2016 at 6:02 pm
  • Reply Rebecca Phillips

    My parents never ever spoke to me about anything like that and I don’t want to be like that with my kids. I want them to know from early on what everything is but get into more detail just before puberty starts so that they feel comfortable with changes. I want them to know real facts rather than hearing bits and pieces and not knowing the truth. They are 4 and 2 now and this is the first I’ve properly thought about it. I may change my mind!

    20/12/2016 at 7:00 pm
  • Reply Jessica Hutton

    I think it all depends on the child. Their maturity, questions they ask ect xx

    20/12/2016 at 7:12 pm
  • Reply Julie S

    if our son has asked a question, we’ll answer it. I think it’s important to encourage them to not be embarrassed to ask.

    20/12/2016 at 7:36 pm
  • Reply Keshia Esgate

    Around 11 – prevents serious problems going untreated

    20/12/2016 at 7:42 pm
  • Reply Joanne Hutchings

    As soon as they start primary school so that these conversations can be normalised from a really early age.

    20/12/2016 at 7:51 pm
  • Reply Laura Findlay

    I would say to answer any questions when asked and by the age of 10 to have a proper conversation because that’s where their bodies start to change.

    20/12/2016 at 8:10 pm
  • Reply Michelle Stokes

    I think it’s never too early, with my 3 girls I always tried to answer any question they threw at me with open honesty but not too much information that it would scare them.

    20/12/2016 at 8:17 pm
  • Reply Chirag Patel

    aged 10-11

    20/12/2016 at 8:22 pm
  • Reply Juanita Powers

    When they start asking question, some are ready for a little information about 9 others about 11

    20/12/2016 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply Deborah Mackenzie

    It depends on the child, but when they ask questions I think it is important to answer honestly but only enough detail that they understand and you have answered what they are asking. Also, I remember I was younger than so many others when I started puberty and was scared and afraid to ask questions. It was something I havent forgotten. So it is important for parents to know their child and they will then know when it is right.

    20/12/2016 at 8:52 pm
  • Reply liz ferguson

    I would say around 12-13 years x

    20/12/2016 at 9:00 pm
  • Reply Jessica Walker

    I would say age 10 as at this age some children are already beginning to develop and it can be a confusing time. Each child is different though so some caution may be needed depending on a child’s own personal development not only physically but mentally

    20/12/2016 at 9:03 pm
  • Reply Sam Parkes

    About 10 or 11 as that was the age I was told about it in school.

    20/12/2016 at 9:13 pm
  • Reply Jo McPherson

    I think around 9 – 10

    20/12/2016 at 9:14 pm
  • Reply Catherine

    i’d say about aged 10

    20/12/2016 at 9:26 pm
  • Reply .Esma Blackwell

    I had a chat with my 13 year old son recently,I left it till this age as he has Autism.I think he has a understanding to some extent.My daughters I will leave till 11 one currently 10 and 2

    20/12/2016 at 9:38 pm
  • Reply karen Howden

    As soon as they start asking the right questions

    20/12/2016 at 9:43 pm
  • Reply Rebecca Alderson

    I’d say as soon as possible, integrate it into their normal hygiene from early on

    20/12/2016 at 9:51 pm
  • Reply Jacqueline Jackson

    I think 11 years old.

    20/12/2016 at 9:57 pm
  • Reply Nicola Lynch

    This is a difficult one. It would depend on the child I guess but around 10 I think.

    20/12/2016 at 10:01 pm
  • Reply Pauline jaconelli

    It’s important to talk to young girls around the age of 10, it’s important for them to know that they shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about these things. It’s normal and because there could be underlying issues that they might be too embarrassed to go and see about but if open at a young age they will be more confident to seek help

    20/12/2016 at 10:02 pm
  • Reply Tina Glover

    I’ve always been very open with my daughter who is now 11. I would say each chil is different and a parent knows the ideal time for their own child. On average though I would say 9-10 xx

    20/12/2016 at 10:02 pm
  • Reply Amy Lambert

    I’d say around 9 just before puberty

    20/12/2016 at 10:22 pm
  • Reply KARL BOROWY

    around 12 years of age

    20/12/2016 at 10:23 pm
  • Reply Michelle Cheeseman

    Dependent on their maturity, I would say around 9 – 10 years. My Daughter has started Primary school this year so may start to hear some of the older Children talking about things.

    20/12/2016 at 10:27 pm
  • Reply Victoria Mylittlel

    i would say about 12, there is nothing to be shy about or worried, its an a normal, daily thing

    20/12/2016 at 10:52 pm
  • Reply Sunita verma

    If u know your child well enough you will always know the right time

    20/12/2016 at 11:05 pm
  • Reply paula cheadle

    I started talking to mine when they were young, as when when they grow up it won’t be embarrassing to come and ask me any questions

    20/12/2016 at 11:09 pm
  • Reply tammi nutting

    around 10 .

    20/12/2016 at 11:16 pm
  • Reply Tina Deacon

    I think about 9-10 but dies depend on each child, my son has already learnt about menopause etc at school and he’s 10

    20/12/2016 at 11:20 pm
  • Reply tishist

    About 8 or 9

    20/12/2016 at 11:44 pm
  • Reply laura pyper

    probably around 10 when there body starts changing so they now what is happening and are happy to discus anything the are worried about

    20/12/2016 at 11:47 pm
  • Reply Wendy Tolhurst

    I think that every child is different and the right time depends on the child. For my eldest, it was aged 10-11, as she started puberty. However my youngest, now 10 has been aware of far more due to the fact that she has a brother 9 years older than her and sisters 11 and 7 years older. We certainly had words when she opened a packet of sanitary towels and stuck them around her bed frame!

    20/12/2016 at 11:50 pm
  • Reply Jane Gorton

    Around 10 but it all depends on your child, you know best! Fantastic prize, thank you so much x

    21/12/2016 at 12:00 am
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