The inevitable question.. Asked by all and sundry, usually nosy colleagues and friends of the family, as soon as you seem to be comfortable in the role of being a parent, you get asked.. So when are you having the next one? Aahhhhh! It drives me mad.
It’s the same type of question you get asked as soon as you get married, everyone assumes that as soon as the ring is on your finger, life as you know it stops and your evenings (or mornings!) will be consumed by baby making activities. Why is everyone in a rush to do things and for life to move on? It didn’t help my case that my little sister (although she’s only 18 months younger than me) got married six months before me and was freshly pregnant on my wedding day. As soon as her news was out, I had comments such as “oh she’s beat you too it!” or “are you upset she’s pregnant before you?”, I know people ‘probably’ meant well but it didn’t feel like it at the time.
Little Mr is nearly 14 months old. We’ve adjusted well to life as a family of three and having been back at work for almost 6 months now I feel I’ve got back into the swing of going to work and being a working Mama. It’s not been easy and for the time being, I’m enjoying our routines and seeing Little Mr developing his skills each and every day. He amazes me and I don’t want to miss out on anything with him. He’s yet to walk (although he’s an established cruiser) and he eats and drinks brilliantly. His communication skills are improving rapidly and he’s been blowing me kisses and waving me off each morning as I drop him off at his Grandparents saying what sounds remarkably like ‘bye-bye’. I am in no rush for him to grow up too quickly, at all. Why the rush?
Yes, we would love Little Mr to have a brother or sister in the not-so-distant future but we are certainly not in any rush to add to our family today, tomorrow or next month. We feel blessed that we have Little Mr in our lives and whilst we are in no rush to add to our little family just yet, when the time comes we’ll be overjoyed. Who knows it could take us two years to conceive or it could happen in 3 months, at this moment in time, we just don’t know and we like it that way. Isn’t life for living anyway? Why the rush?
Update: Our second baby boy was born in January 2018