Bedtime battles


LM asleep Jan 14

Little Mr’s bedtime is of late, becoming rather a battle. He’s shattered, he rubs his eyes, he whinges a little because he wants something but he doesn’t know what he wants, it’s time for bed.

We take him upstairs for his bath where we let him play with his toys in the water whilst we wash him  down and take him into his room to dry off and get him ready for bed. As we dry him off he has his bottle of milk and he continues to rub his eyes, clearly a sign he’s tired.

We dress him in his pyjamas and zip him into his sleeping bag, all of which we’ve been doing since he started sleeping in his own room many months ago. We kiss him goodnight, tell him we love him and pop the soothing rain sounds of Ewan the Dream Sheep on. We gently place him in his cot, turn out the light and… ‘wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh’ he starts!

He’s found his feet too so along with the crying he stands up, in his sleeping bag and holds onto the cot. So then his dummy falls out which upsets him even more. We go in, lie him back down and he gets up again. Repeat. Over and over.

I hate bedtimes. I’m finding them so stressful. As soon as I pick him up from his Grandparents house, it’s a race to fit in everything before bedtime. I’m desperately trying to ensure Little Mr is eating a healthy balanced diet, wanting him to eat the foods he should be having, plenty of fruit and vegetables, meat, calcium, dairy along with all the vitamins a growing child needs. Having bedtime last over 2 hours is really starting to wear me down. Luckily hubby has been helping sort the mess from the kitchen out and by 8:30/9pm we can finally relax. Fit in a bath (the shower is still broken) and it’s time for bed. Where’s the ME time? Surely a five minute bath isn’t me time?

I’ve sought professional help over the trauma’s we’re having over the bedtime battles. We’ve had advice and we’ve changed a few things. Firstly, Little Mr is now on whole cows milk and we’ve ditched the formula. I’ve noticed in the last few weeks he’s got a lot more hungry and the milk isn’t satisfying him of an evening. He eats like a horse and after he’s had enough he pushes the food away. I’m really hoping it’ll help keep him asleep for longer. Secondly, I know he’s upset with us for leaving him during the day hence why he’s looking for us at bedtime. We need to toughen up although it breaks my heart to see those real tears streaming down his face, it’s bedtime and we need sleep.

Hubby is still unwell. He’s got an appointment coming up at the hospital for the sleep clinic so hopefully he’ll get some answers soon and be able to sleep through the night without waking up and they’ll help sort his breathing out. If i’m honest, this is probably the most stressed I’ve ever been. Worrying about my husband falling asleep during the day, him not being able to sleep at night and knowing i’m on wake up duty through the night with Little Mr, and being able to function and go to work on as little as three hours sleep. It’s got to get better hasn’t it? I’m off to bed. Please sleep through Son, please?

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  • Reply Rebecca 13/01/2014 at 5:09 am

    Awww it is so difficult, you just have to remember it is a phase and will pass. Good luck xxx

    • Reply mrsshilts 13/01/2014 at 7:37 pm

      Thanks Rebecca, I really hope it is x

  • Reply YouBabyMeMummy 13/01/2014 at 12:34 pm

    I can sympathise 100%. Baby used to drink bottle, have a cuddle, go to sleep – end of story. Then she would wake once in the night for bottle. The day we started to wean her that all changed and she was getting up multiple times through the night etc. Then about 2 months ago she decided that bedtime was not always bedtime and it often takes up 2 hours to get her to go to sleep. Sometimes she needs settling and sometimes she wants more milk. It is stressful and tiring xx

  • Reply Lauren 13/01/2014 at 9:50 pm

    Oh poor you. It won’t last forever though, although that won’t be much consolation right now. If it makes you feel any better my daughter has to be fed to sleep, be it boob or bottle every night, and most nap times! Rod for my own back made right there! She’s 7 months and we’ve tried putting her down when she is tired but she just scratches at her eyes till shes caused herself so much pain she couldnt sleep anyway!
    Good luck, and I hope your husband gets some help soon too xx

    • Reply mrsshilts 13/01/2014 at 10:23 pm

      Thanks Lauren, I hope you’re right. A phase can’t last forever right? xx

  • Reply Gemma 13/01/2014 at 9:52 pm

    We had similar with Charlotte and it lasted months. She started playing up at bedtime around 10 months old and it got gradually worse. It’s only now at 15 months old that she is realising it’s bedtime and she is not getting up again. I think some of it was separation anxiety. She won’t have cows milk and we are on toddler milk. It’s so hard when you have done everything the same as usual, with Charlotte everything was so easy when she was younger it’s almost harder than those who have had nightmare babies. I blamed it on being a working Mum but I went back to work when she was 6 1/2 months old so I have settled on the separation anxiety being the cause. It does get better it just sometimes takes time.

    • Reply mrsshilts 13/01/2014 at 10:23 pm

      Thanks for your comment Gemma. I really hope it doesn’t last months, I don’t know how much I can take. I know I need to be a lot firmer at bedtime, it’s just so hard when they’re upset and you see the tears rolling xx

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