As a busy Mummy with a small family and working most of the week out of the house, life at home needs to be organised. There needs to be clean clothes to wear and food to eat as well as bills to pay and appointments to schedule and attend. Life can be so incredibly busy whilst I’m tending to the rest of the family’s needs, that I sometimes forget to look after my own too. I’ve been at the point where I’m exhausted trying to do it all and came to realise that sometimes, you just can’t do it all, all of the time on your own. With this in mind, I’m attempting to be kinder to myself in the new year and here’s how you can too.
Here’s 5 ways to be kinder to yourself in 2017
Make time for yourself – I’m busy, you’re busy, we’re all busy but we need to make time for ourselves to relax. From now on, I’m going to dedicate half an hour to myself each night and do something for me. Whether it’s to shave my legs (it’s all glamour here!) read a magazine or drink a hot cup of coffee whilst immersed in a TV programme, take the time and invest in yourself.
Stop comparing yourself – Everyone is different. Everyone has a different story to tell. No-one has walked in your footsteps and you theirs. Don’t compare your beginning with someone else’s middle. It’s not healthy and it is crippling! You could be comparing yourself to an imaginary person because let’s face it, sometimes the things we see on Instagram for example, aren’t the real deal. People only show what they want you to see. Sometimes it’s not the real person and for all we know they could be comparing themselves too.
Accept compliments – I am rubbish at doing this. I am always self-critizing myself when sometimes I’m paid a compliment and I don’t think I’m worthy enough to accept it. Take the compliment, someone has taken the time to say something kind and kindness seems to be quite rare these days and needs to be embraced. Compliments can really boost the mindset and can do a whole world of good for your self-esteem.
Recognise when you need help – When life is going swimmingly and hurdles are thrown at you left, right and centre, it’s okay to recognise that you can’t do it all alone. Recognising this will take a weight off and will allow you to accept help more freely. Whether it’s buying the cold and flu remedies you don’t think you need when you’re feeling poorly or accepting your husbands offer to go shopping or take the kids out for the afternoon, accept the help and lessen the load.
Do something good each day – Doing something good for someone else each day is a small way of making you feel good about yourself. I know when I let another car out at a junction and it’s my right of way, I feel kind. I sometimes leave my car parking ticket stuck to the pay machine if it’s got time left on it for someone else to use or buy a tin or jar for the foodbank collection in the supermarket. No-one knows who you are, it’s a silent reward knowing you’ve done something good just because you can.
I’m sure you’ll agree that there’s something to take away from the points above. Be kind to yourself, you’re worth it!
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